今天和朋友说起来当个男人不容易，又想起来“Weatherman”里Michael Caine对儿子说的话“To get anything a value, you have to sacrifice. The hard thing to do and right thing to do are usually the same thing. Nothing that has meaning is easy. Easy doesn’t enter to a grown up life.”
那个时候Nicolas Cage演的weatherman正是在内外交困的节骨眼上。想和前妻和好，但总是争吵；女儿超重，被别人欺负；儿子要戒毒，后来还差点被流氓诱拐；父亲诊断出有癌症；自己则经常在街上被人扔东西砸，因为自己是个weatherman。可同时自己的事业又有很好的机会，可以去纽约一个年薪上百万的工作。这么多扯不清理还乱的事情，没有一件是简单的，怎么办？ Cage把绝望和困惑清楚地写在脸上。
关键时刻还是需要父亲来指点一条明路，因为 “People always look after their kids, no matter how old” ---- “In this shit life, we must chunk something.”
是啊，对成年人来说，要承担无数的责任和压力，没有那件事是简单的，有的事能做好，有的事就是不行，甚至自己做了很大的努力甚至牺牲还是不行。那这时候，只有放弃一些，把自己会做的，特别是拿手的事情先做好。在复杂的生活里，要先想清楚自己的能力，自己的位置，不管以前曾经想过成为什么样的人，现在是要做自己。
“I remember once, imagine what life could be like, what I’ll be like. I picture all the qualities, strong positive qualities that people can pick up on across the room. But as time passed, it never became the qualities I actually had. And all the possibilities I phased, the sorts of people I could be, all them got reduced every year, fewer and fewer, until finally they got reduced to one, to who I am. And that’s who I am.”
