儿子在学校被欺负了

儿子最近脾气大。昨天一到家就看他一个人在family room玩。老爸到家，也没有过来迎接一下。老爸问了句：“Did you have a good day in school?”

儿子头也没抬地回答：“Yes.”

到了吃饭的时候，妈妈叫儿子吃饭，儿子就是不来，还不耐烦地说“ I know.”

看他那没精打采的样子，老爸就随口问了句：“有人在学校欺负你了吗？”

儿子才抬起头说：“Yes, Arnold smashed my finger on my desk.”

“Did you call your teacher?”

“Yes, I did. She did not response.”

老师对儿子一向还不错，怎么会呢？可能不是大事吧。就问儿子：“What happended?”

“It's my desk. Arnold said it was not. So he smashed my finger.”

看看他的手指，没什么事。就问：“Did you fight back?”

“It is not allowed in school to fight back bully kids. ”

“Then, what should you do?”

“1st, ignore; then if she/he keep bothering you, walk away; finally, if she/he does not stop, report to grown-ups.”

看来口诀还背得不错呢。老爸想了想，给他说：“You know what, when I was little kid like your age, I was always picked by other kids, too. However, I used my brain to win--not physically by using my fists. I worked hard and studied hard. So I am the only one from my class in elemetary school who went to a top college in China. You visited my hometown 2 years ago, you still remember it's a poor countryside, right? Most of them are still in the countryside. So you can win, too, by your brain. You can go to a better college in the future.”

然后我们就不着边际的谈了一会儿，从哪个college是第一，到哪些地方好玩。儿子还记得MIT, Harvard, Amherst呢。上次陪姐姐的campus visit还是给他留了点记忆嘛。

孩子真是一天一个样。要在忙碌的日常生活中还能照顾到这些学校的孩子们争吵打架的小事，真是不容易。今天上学前，还提醒他：“Win by using your brain. Get it?”

儿子点了点头。

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