Flamenco_girl’s dance bug definitely caught on me.Though I did not take action of dancing, I watched three dancing related movies during Thanksgiving holiday. The best of them was “Shall we dance?” starring by Richard Gene, Susan Sarandon and Jennifer Lopez.
The story was simple. Maybe because of mid life crisis, or just trying to color his routine life, John started ballroom dancing lessons. He met one of the coaches Paulina, a beautiful girl who traumatized by her ex-boyfriend’s accident. Teaching and learning inspired everybody and changed their personal life. Dancing revealed their deep confidence, encouragement and love to life. (Except John, the Latin guy starred by Stanley was very impressive).
Maybe ballroom dancing was one of the best trainings for male and female relationship, in which the man and the woman had to collaborate with each other. “In order to keep image and stay together, the woman can only dance the steps the man leads” (Flamenco_girl’s words). So picking up the right partner was the most critical issue. “Choosing a dancing partner is much more difficult than a life partner” Flamenco_girl told me. Who would be qualified for the right one? Let chemistry decided.
Chemistry is amazing. The world could not exist without chemistry. So does relationship. I really doubt a relationship could be nurtured without any chemistry. And I do believe chemistry varies in establishment and maturation of a relationship. At the very beginning, there is initial chemistry, which serves as a prerequisite rather than a guarantee for a possible relationship. Later on, the chemistry either secretes more or stops generating, which will consequently lead to different outcomes. Sometimes, the chemistry only allows two people to be dancing partners or working parterns. In other scenario, they might end up as intimate friends or even life partners. To maintain a relationship, chemistry does need to be carefully nurtured and fine-tunely modified to induce new chemistry, which keeps a long term relationship. (One of my friends named the chemistry as FATE, in Chinese YUAN).
Back to the movie, dancing refreshed the chemistry between John and his wife. My eyes welled up with tears when John met his wife in his tuxedo with a red rose in hand. As life partners, the chemistry was no more than respect, trust and understanding.
(Just some sparks after watching the movie Shall We Dance and the drama Grey's Anatomy.)
回答: Shall We Dance? 由 melly 于 2007-11-29 19:59:09
People need chemistry for a relationship, holding them together. I often see good girls fall in love with bad boys, and handsome men pick plain women for the rest of their lives. Who knows what’s happened between each couple, what’s the driving force holding them together? A man finds a woman appealing doesn't mean that the feeling will be reciprocal, no chemistry between, while some girls habitually like keeping the ones they deeply love off balance in a while or before they reach the home base. After having been turned down countless times by beautiful girls I admired, I started knowing a little bit about the chemistry. It isn’t the only thing holding people together for a long term relationship. To me, admiring and trusting each other by hearts, and loving and caring each other by minds help nurturing chemistry initiated out of mutual physical attraction into a committed relationship, and holding it longer.
Love is always the theme of life and I’m still learning how to love and be loved. Again, my friend, thank you for sharing thoughts and insights.
melly 发表评论于
I agree with you, besides the chemistry in between lovers
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回答: 回复：回复：Shall We Dance? 由 melly 于 2007-11-30 17:01:32
or genders, there is lot more we can talk about. How do we handle the chemistry at business, with customers or suppliers, at work, with managers, peers or employees, and at home, with parents or children? How to maintain constructive relationships with them? How to maintain the self-confidence and self-esteem of others when doing business or parenting practice? People’s chemistry with the others at work, at business, and at home is a thing to judge their working capabilities as professionals and businessmen as well as parents and family members.
Thanks for dropping lines and liking this movie. I do not think the dancing scenes in the movie were quite impressive especially I watched the competition held in OH lately. But the hidden meaning is attractive. Maybe it is why you like it?!
Just a wild guess. :-))
melly 发表评论于
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haha... thanks for reminding. we are safe as long as you will not betray us. LOL
雄鹰展翅 发表评论于
I bought the DVD of "Shall we dance?" I couldn't say much about why it is good, just like it.
归来 发表评论于
melly,flamenco_girl:
Hi, Be careful to talk about these kinds of sweet secrets in here. If your guys husband find. wow. They will sue the other one of disturbing family. :)))
melly 发表评论于
回复flamenco_girl的评论:
I have the same thoughts as your gf's. :_)) Too bad, we are too straight. LOL
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回复melly的评论:
You are adorable melly. I agree with you regarding to the importance of Chemistry for people to get along.
For travel, your days will come if you want to.
You reminded me a girl friend of mine during our 20s, who told her husband that if I was a guy she would marry me instead of her husband :-)
melly 发表评论于
回复Flamenco_Girl的评论:
I can't agree with you more. Yes, not all people dance on stage but all people dance on life stage everyday, which reminds me of chemistry because people want to dance gracefully and happily as possible as they can. :-)))I really like the word CHEMISTRY now. People are like atoms and electrons. When one meets another, the reaction happens. Even online, like us. :-)))
So admiring you. You are gonna to visit San Fransisco and Hawaii. I wish I were the partner. :-)))
Flamenco_Girl 发表评论于
Ha, melly, cheers for the "dance bug" :-)
Indeed, we dance in real life every day in a less dramatic pace. You may like to see the Japenese version of "Shall We Dance", it's much better to my taste, especially the professional female teacher.
melly 发表评论于
回复goodbaby98的评论:
Baby, I sensed we shared the similar taste. I did watch dirty dancing a long long time ago and I loved it. However, dirty dance is not my type, I prefer standard better.
People enjoy hobbies for they would make people's life much better and meaningful. Isn't it a hobby supposed to do? :-)))
melly 发表评论于
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Actually, your old name was not offensive but impressive. It always reminded me of a big size boy trying to dance with me. :-))) The most impression was your homor. I love your new name too. It is like you are reborn.
melly 发表评论于
回复夜光杯的评论:
Ha, are you still hibernating? :-))) Are you commenting in your dream? :-))) I am so happy to see you no matter if you are hibernating.
goodbaby98 发表评论于
写得非常好，我也很喜欢Shall We Dance这个电影，将生活与跳舞融于一体。我还很喜欢看DIRTY DANCING这个电影。
“Choosing a dancing partner is much more difficult than a life partner”这句话很有意思，对我们这些不参加舞蹈比赛的普通人来说，选择合适的life partner就是一件很难很难的事情了，第一次想到选择合适的dancing partner会那么难。：)
归来 发表评论于
改名了，女孩子好象不喜欢花和尚， 哈哈！
祝周末跳舞开心。
夜光杯 发表评论于
"As life partners, the chemistry was no more than respect, trust and understanding."
