台湾的朋友NNWU曾经给我转发过80/20定律，觉得蛮有意思，可以对浮躁的心态有很好的降温作用。后来在网上也见过相关内容。今天又看到他发过来的90/10定律，更细致地讲述了如何用积极的方法实现作者所倡导的道德人生和幸福人生。转发至此，与君共享。我提供中文译文，中英文对照，可以练习练习翻译哦：）
作者是著名的管理学大师Stephen Covey，曾被《时代》周刊列为25位最有影响力的美国人之一。
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations.
90/10 定律将会改变你的生活（至少会改变你对不同问题的处理方法）。
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
什么是90/10 定律？90/10定律说的是——生命的 10% 是由你的际遇所组成，余下的90% 则取决于你的反应。
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
这意味着什么？这意味着我们无法掌握那 10% 的际遇——无法让已经抛锚的汽车再次启动，不得不因为航班误点而重新安排日程，甚至在堵塞的车流中不得不任由司机摆布。
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
我们无法控制这10% 的际遇，但你可以控制剩下的 90% 。
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light.But you can control your reaction.Don't let people fool you;YOU can control how you react.
90%取决于你的反应。怎么样？
你不能控制交通灯转红还是变绿，但你能够控制你自己随时观察交通灯的变化。别傻乎乎地说你不行。
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family.Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
比如说，你与家人一起吃早饭。你女儿不小心将咖啡洒在你的衣服上——这是你无法控制的情況。
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.She breaks down in tears.After scolding her,you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table.A short verbal battle follows.You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs,you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school.She misses the bus.
下一步将如何则根据你的反应而定。
你会责怪她，责备她碰倒杯子，把咖啡洒得到处都是。女儿无法继续吃下去，哭了起来。责怪完女儿，你又责怪太太不该把咖啡放在桌边。接踵而来的便是三个人的互相责怪与埋怨。你冲到楼上去换衣服，下楼时发现女儿由于刚才的插曲哭着吃完早饭去学校上课，但学校班车已经开走了。
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school.Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
太太要赶时间上班，你只好急忙开车送女儿上学。由于时间已晚，你不得不在一条限速30英里的道路上将车子开到40迈，并因为超速被罚款60元。好不容易赶到学校时，已经上课15分钟了，女儿连再见都没说便急忙忙地跑进了教室。而当你到公司时，其他同事已经开始工作二十分钟。而这时，你才发觉你根本就没有带公文包！你的一天就这样糟糕地开始了，而且感觉每况愈下，什么事都不如意。于是，你又想尽快回家。
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? ….
Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
下班回家后，你发现你已于太太和女儿已不似以往融洽。
为什么会这样？因为这一切皆因你早晨的反应而引起。
为何会有如此糟糕的一天？ ？
Ａ）是那杯洒在你身上的咖啡造成的？
Ｂ）是你的女儿粗心大意导致的？
Ｃ）是警察的罚款？
Ｄ）是你自作自受？
The answer is “D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
答案是Ｄ。
你无法控制女儿将咖啡碰倒这一事实，但你在接下来5秒钟之内的反应是导致你厄运连生的原因。
Here is what could have and should have happened.Coffee splashes over you.Your daughter is about to cry.You gently say, "Its ok,honey.you just need to be more careful next time".Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs.After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase,you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.She turns and waves.You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
不妨尝试另外一种做法：
咖啡泼到你的身上，你女儿因自己的大意内疚得快哭了。但你却温柔地说：“宝贝儿，下次要小心哦。”
你一边拿毛巾擦拭衣服一边飞跑到楼上换衣服，同时把公文包也拿下来。下楼时隔窗而望，女儿正在上巴士，一边回头来向你挥手道别。你还比平时早5分钟到了公司，心情很好地与同事互道早安，并因为表现良好受到老板鼓励。
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios.
Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
看到两者的区别了吗？这两个不同的场景，都是由于一个同样的事端引发的，但结局却大相径庭。
为什么？
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens.The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
皆因你的反应不同而致。
你或许的确无法控制那10%的际遇，但剩下的90%则取决于你的反应。
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.If someone says something negative about you,don't be a sponge.Let the attack roll off like water on glass.You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day.A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
在生活当中，很多方面都会用到这个定律。
假如有人对你指指点点，千万别当自己是块什么都吸收的“海绵”。让那些非议像水在玻璃上流走一样，别让那些流言蜚语影响你！
虽然适当的回应能使你的生活免受破坏，但一个错误的反应也许会让你失去朋友、心情抑郁、压力加大而导致精神崩溃。
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel?A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!
Do you curse?Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?Who cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work?Why let the cars ruin your dirve?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
如果遭遇塞车你会怎么办？发脾气？猛敲方向盘？我的一个朋友就曾经把方向盘揪了下来！
破口大骂？血压上窜？还是冲出去对堵塞的车辆踹上几脚？实际上，上班迟到10秒又如何？为何要让这种无法避免的塞车影响自己的驾程呢？
记住 90/10 定律，你就不会着急。
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
你被告知饭碗不保，于是你便大受刺激无法入眠。可是事情已经发生了，还不如以此精力另寻谋生之道。既然航班已误，日程安排肯定会受到影响，何必要把余怨发泄到空姐身上呢？她也是回天无力的。
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
还不如利用误点的时间学点什么，或者尝试结识身边的乘客。大发雷霆只能让事情更糟。
Now you know the 90-10 principle.Apply it and you will be amazed at the results.You will lose nothing if you try it.
既然懂得了 90/10 定律，就去在实践中应用它，你会发现它的惊人效果而对自己毫发无损。
The 90-10 principle is incredible.Very few know and apply this principle. The result？Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy...
90/10 定律非常神奇，但只有极少数的人知道如何运用。结果便是成千上万的人依然在承受无意义的痛苦之中，因皮毛琐事而困扰，因生活变异而手足无措，因情感失落而捶胸顿足。
我们必须要了解90/10 定律，因为它会改变你的生活！
共勉。
