Hi. Agree with you 100% on that life is short and we need to be truthful to our feelings. Thank you for speaking your mind truthfully. A bit touched as well by your concern, because it seems real.
Normally I don’t care to explain myself too much. I write for my own sake and if people get it they get it. But seeing that you are truly disturbed and genuinely concerned, I almost felt an obligation to update you on my latest. I won't bore you with too much detail, except to say that that article you are referencing was written 2 years ago. That chapter of my life has long been behind me. My ex-boyfriend is a good person with a good heart. He may have more of a violent disposition but it's a matter of degree I guess if we want to get all technical about it. Who doesn’t have any violent tendency? It's just that most people learn to keep it well under control. Granted that physical violence should never be tolerated, but for me personally, it has been forgiven. I always get cautious when using the word love, because I don't quite know what it is. But I’d like to think that we used to have it. It’s just that many of us don’t have the first clue on how to channel it, and so we tend to hurt the people we “love.”
On that same note I agree with you that many of us could use some good counseling. I’m not opposed to the idea of counseling at all and think virtually everyone can benefit from doing so whether or not they know or think they need it. I wasn’t insulted by it. It was the other comments you made about my friends that were uncalled for. But it’s all good now, like you said we got off on the wrong foot.
Any relationship is unique and way too complicated to be summed up in a short article. Too much goes unsaid and unexplained. If that article was meant to sum it all up it would be an utter failure at that. The thing is most things I write here is just a way to help me think and vent, and sometimes to no particular audience.
Finally I guess I should let everyone who’s concerned know that we are no longer together. A lot has happened since then. We parted peacefully and rationally when we were both calm and wishing to come up with some resolution of a hopeless situation. He was married last year. I was invited to his wedding. We are friends now and we still keep in touch. We both grew from that experience and hopefully for the better.
dueprocess 发表评论于
回复yue06的评论:
月月,这就去。等我一会儿哈
yue06 发表评论于
小丢,小洁,兰兰,
快回咱们快乐老家把,想你们拉~~~
对有些人,你跟他讲不通道理的拉~~
DueProcess 发表评论于
几天没回家这里这么热闹了?
谢谢大家。真的谢谢。我的朋友都太实诚了,实心眼得让人心疼。谁爱说什么让他们说什么好了,管不过来啊。
楼下的,你要是玩够了,上别处玩去吧。你非要在这里玩我也没办法。But please direct all your comments to me and me alone. I read all comments and all are well received. Just leave my friends out of this. I admit they can be very protective of me, even though I'm a grown up and can take care of myself. Their love may seem unduely shocking to you, nonetheless I love them for their support and kindness. I wouldn't elevate it to a "cultural revolution" level, nor would I take it as any indication of how "civilized" someone is. Civilization is overated if you ask me. My friends and I are just here to have some fun. You are more than welcome to join us if you'd like, but if you think you are too good for us, then by all means move on. But with all due respect, enough of these insulting yet rediculous remarks about so and so being poisoned by communism or such and such thing is bad for one's heart. You don't strike me as an expert on either Mao's philosophy or cardiac conditions. Give it a rest please.
阿兰 发表评论于
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I like to make some comments to see how people react.
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Me too. I knew you were not serious. We were playing jokes on you at the same time you made fun of us.
Just hope you could be a little bit simpler and have surely much more real fun that way.
hairycat
sorry I didn't see your most recent post when I wrote my reply!
Chinablue 发表评论于
hairycat
You are very candid. Yeah,I don't know "why Due tortures her boyfriend and herself" either. I understand that you may act out of good intention to ask Due to seek consultation, but you are probably too quick to give your advice. Also, it's not appropriate to call it "casual"or "mean spirited". You really need to read more of her blog articles.
Also, maybe you are a Chrisitian, but to read and cite the Bible is not a privilege of Christian, right? I remember a Christian friend once encouraged us to pray even though we are not Christian.
其次,我们并没有judge你,如果你只是在你家门口发飙,或者你不是在丢的家里对丢说一些不公平的话,我们根本也不会出来说一些我们的关于丢的文章的看法以至于很不巧的被你认为涉及到你。。。我们甚至都是陌生人,说真的,你都不用care who I am and 我们也同样不care who you're 或你是什么样的人。。。,大家在这也不过是就事论事谈论due的文章。。。根本没有谈论到你或者judge你,请你发飙前线读读清楚我们的评论好吗?谢谢。。。。
偶,最后,很不巧的,我和丢非常之熟,非常了解她,不仅在城内,也在城外,她也许有很多缺点,但是我喜欢她高贵透明单纯的人格as well as 她的文章,所以我非常知道我在说什么,今天为什么出来替她说话不过是因为她刚好出门,我觉得在她不在的时候有人这样从她的文章评论她的人格很不公平,所以就出来说几句对她文章的看法。。。。
你和due的区别只是你也许有比她complicate的经历甚至阴暗地想法,但你不会把它说出来,而丢不过是用她的单纯诚实地写出了她自己的感受,this is her writing, her experience, not yours,她并不是为了让别人高兴而写的,不过是很诚实的陈述了她自己的感受whether you like it or not ,对于这样的诚实,我们应该用感恩的态度去read去appreciate,而没有权利在旁边做judgement...........
sorry, I am a very direct person,有什么说什么,如果你象你自己觉得的那么完美的话,你应该能接受我的这段很直接的意见吧。。。谢谢。。。。