让爱闪烁

深夜,小雪。

回到家的时候已经很累了,躺在床上却因为双脚冰冷,辗转不能入睡。于是起床去泡泡浴。泡泡在耳边细细碎碎地破裂的声音,反衬着浴室的绝对寂静,偶尔有蜡烛芯发出的噼啪声。

思绪被温暖的水激活,没有边际地到处延展。

下午时候开车去downtown和朋友T还有他女朋友见面吃饭。朋友也是住院医生,最近压力非常大,但是好在工作出色受到表彰,今天是为他庆祝。他在城市的另一边开会,我开车载他女朋友一路赶去他最喜欢的寿司馆,有点远。等了许久,朋友打电话来说刚结束,在路上。然后又过了许久,说交通非常不好,下雪,而且下错高速出口了,女朋友言语间开始焦躁。此后反反复复电话,短信,最后两个人都发脾气了,朋友说不来了,直接回家了。

我看着他女朋友,不知道说什么好,原本是因为T才答应赴约晚餐,结果我们两个算什么呢,况且我们也不熟,场面非常尴尬。我们准备点菜的时候,T却赶到了,OMG,我能看到他女朋友的脸上瞬间泛起的灿烂,眼睛里流动的光芒,整个晚餐,言谈甚欢,T的女朋友因为心情极佳,妙语如珠,前后张罗点菜,言行间尽显爱意。

从旁观者的角度,真是让人感慨,这样一个小小的effort,能够让自己爱的人,这样开心。但是在匆忙疲惫的生活中,多少次,因为这样那样的小借口,或者就是不屑于那些细碎的努力,我们就这样放弃了一次次的让爱闪烁的机会。

twinings 发表评论于
"...这样一个小小的effort,能够让自己爱的人,这样开心。但是在匆忙疲惫的生活中,多少次,因为这样那样的小借口,或者就是不屑于那些细碎的努力,我们就这样放弃了一次次的让爱闪烁的机会。"

难道只有女人才会体会这些。
dadaland 发表评论于
其实,有人争吵,再重归于好,就是一种幸福了,愿大家都懂得珍惜。。。。
落花飘零 发表评论于
流沙,你一句话把我这篇文章的意境都抹杀了!!呵呵。

aprilwind,忙的时候身体也要当心哦。

车夫,我的朋友和他女朋友两个人都比较moody而已,不过他们感情好,也磨合的越来越好了,谢谢你的祝福。

我心和影子还take it serious了,不过是一个小小的插曲风波,我的一点感触而已,哪有这么严重,要上升到人品的高度,呵呵。朋友确实比较累,但是他知道我们专程赶来为他庆祝,临时不来是不对的,女朋友不开心也是情有可原的,他们也没有大吵,一个在开车,一个等了几个小时,自然言语间有点不快。
所幸最后皆大欢喜。
我心沉吟 发表评论于
回复sunshadow的评论:
you didn't get my point:
both parties should take for granted that he/she should sacrifice for the good of the other; and should NOT take for granted that the other sacrifice for him/her. This is the meaning of love---mutual benefit
sunshadow 发表评论于
同意我心同学的英文结论,不同意中文结论。
在陌生的朋友面前和男友大吵,情商不敢恭维。
女生不是不考虑细节,是男女关注的地方不同。至于谁先退让,个人感觉完全取决于不同的事情。不是因为是女生就应该首先退让,vice versa。
我心沉吟 发表评论于
don't want to ruin the atmosphere, just to want make my point clear:

If she couldn't take care of her BF's friend in his absence; did yell at him on the phone in front of his friend even he had legit & uncontrollable reason of being late; then I don't think she consider her BF but herself as top priority. She's either immature or selfish.

I don't know the others, but I will not want such a GF for sure.
我心沉吟 发表评论于
nowadays it should be said "大多数女人常忽视在生活小节上的体贴,她们不知道爱的失去尽都在小小的地方"。

女性在社会和经济地位取得独立的同时,越来越少的考虑男性的感受,而将接受爱抚和让步take for granted (although 从男性角度来说确实应该 take for granted),殊不知爱情,只有单向的情感流动,又能闪烁多久?


长脚车夫 发表评论于
卡耐基有句很有意思的话:大多数男人常忽视在生活小节上的体贴,他么不知道爱的失去尽都在小小的地方。

你的朋友可谓是逆其道而行,祝他收获爱情。
aprilwind 发表评论于
最近忙,有几天没来这里了。匆匆补读了你的文章,篇篇感人。
换照片了,这一张也很喜欢,很可人的女孩。
流沙随风 发表评论于
耐读的短文。

还是想跟你开个玩笑,呵呵,题目改为“宁做灯泡让爱闪烁”如何?
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