i remember the concept of personal space was introduced to me by Joe when i first lived in with the Riley's. Katie, being a 4yr old was so close to me and enjoyed playing with me a lot. i was of course, so happy that we got along so well until one day Joe had a serious conversation with me.. he told me that Katie was a little bit upset as i was too close to her when we play or talk physically. he asked me if i know what "personal space" meant.. i did not know. the conversation made me quite uneasy for the next couple weeks and i intentially distanced myself from Katie. but the irony is that after more than a decade, i am feeling more and more the importance of having personal space in my house. my in-laws are nice people and they treat me very well as much as a daughter to them.. however, they have been staying so long with us that i am feeling i can't breathe well. we took road trips and the five of us are locked in the same space-car for a few hours, i just simply can't handle the conversation. or if i am simply being quite, then it is rude. i'd like to have the time to go out with my daughter alone, or have a movie treat with my hubby.. but it never happened. my hubby won't do that, he would think that i am not a good daughter in law. as easy as they are, i just think it has been too long that we all just need a good break from each other. my american coworkers think this is insane that they have been here that long, but i am a hybrid that sits in between of the two culture. as much as i love my daughter, i would hope that i dnt get involved in her life that much. the american style of the parents-kids relationship appears to be more healthy to me.. that each party enjoys the comany during major holidays yet not upsetting each other under the same roof..
personal space
tdbear (2009-07-23 15:14:49) 评论 (0)i remember the concept of personal space was introduced to me by Joe when i first lived in with the Riley's. Katie, being a 4yr old was so close to me and enjoyed playing with me a lot. i was of course, so happy that we got along so well until one day Joe had a serious conversation with me.. he told me that Katie was a little bit upset as i was too close to her when we play or talk physically. he asked me if i know what "personal space" meant.. i did not know. the conversation made me quite uneasy for the next couple weeks and i intentially distanced myself from Katie. but the irony is that after more than a decade, i am feeling more and more the importance of having personal space in my house. my in-laws are nice people and they treat me very well as much as a daughter to them.. however, they have been staying so long with us that i am feeling i can't breathe well. we took road trips and the five of us are locked in the same space-car for a few hours, i just simply can't handle the conversation. or if i am simply being quite, then it is rude. i'd like to have the time to go out with my daughter alone, or have a movie treat with my hubby.. but it never happened. my hubby won't do that, he would think that i am not a good daughter in law. as easy as they are, i just think it has been too long that we all just need a good break from each other. my american coworkers think this is insane that they have been here that long, but i am a hybrid that sits in between of the two culture. as much as i love my daughter, i would hope that i dnt get involved in her life that much. the american style of the parents-kids relationship appears to be more healthy to me.. that each party enjoys the comany during major holidays yet not upsetting each other under the same roof..