We all have such a dream, yet may have chosen to settle down because of the fear for loneliness... Thank you so much for sharing this story and the beautiful music. I have just written down the note and will practise.
以艾森这样暗藏的豪气,算得上个情感超人了。寻常人家的孩子,情况总或有不同,就譬如年轻时走进relationship,也未必匆匆,也曾说服自己是真爱,只是年少无知而不自知;但是成年后,却渐渐明白,究竟什么才是自己真爱的长长的list,这时候倘若又碰到符合真爱list的伊芙,那么回思眼前已历多年的relationship,蓦然体会到的孤独,才最是直刺心底的。而这时候 move on 一步的艰难,恐怕更难于54年孤独的自守。当然,个中的艰难,难相比;艾森的勇气,却可鉴;得到真爱需付出代价,皆难免,只是这代价的内容,太不同。结果如何,归根结底,还是取决于这份真爱深到何等程度,取决于追求真爱者是何等人格。
aaalbert 发表评论于
Luo Hua,
Here is something I wrote probably 1 year ago. We are probably not that different in this issue.
Believe in love.
Maybe it is not practical to believe in love. Anyway, nowadays we do know a lot about the biological, evolutionary, and neural nature of love. We know that love is an illusion of nature so that we become eager to pass on our genes. We know some chemicals can make us fall in love with someone or something, or vice versa. We know that there are mathematical and economic research about love and marriage and romance. Psychologists offer suggestions on how to love and to be loved, in a manner that love is analytical and operational, and everyone follows the recipe should be an expert in love.
But love is about the passion, the feeling, the moment, that is unexplained, untold, non-repeatable, and non-understandable. Love gives the spirit, the meaning to life, the strength for us to endure the everyday boredom. Love let us enjoy today and expect tomorrow. With love, we are not the mere host of our genes, but persons completing each other, with our own wills and emotions.
How old is he when he passed away? How many years did they have together?
aaalbert 发表评论于
This is another sad story of being perfectionistic. It scares me away. It is so dangerous to be perfectionistic: the story may read like a poem, the life must be a lonely, unhappy one. I don't know whether it is true: either Eva is the perfect match for Ethan, which I doubt, or Ethan changed his opinion over time, which he might not even realize. I also don't know if the final years with Eva were able to compensate for the loneliness Ethan had suffered for many years. But it seems that Ethan was happy, finally, and it is probably our nature to selectively forget the pains and unhappiness in the past to savor the happiness better. We live in our own world, we defend for everything we do, and we are responsible for all the consequences of our actions.