living now

One day, while a group of parents expressing concerns regarding kids started getting interested in girl/boy friends at young age. One parent said that he fully supports his son of starting to get a girl friend. He said that he did not have the chance of dating more girls when he was young and he felt he had missed something in his life. The reason for his missed opportunities is not because he was not capable but due to the fact the society he lived in did not allow such activity at that time. I guess that was true for all middle aged and older Chinese and also people from similar societies like India and mid-east countries.

We all have our desires and dreams but we know some of them will not be able to be fulfilled. People realize this strongly when they reach their mid-age. That is one of the symptoms of mid-age crisis and time is not on people’s side. Some dreams will remain dreams since we know we never had and never will have the chance to achieve them that is why they are called dreams. But some became regrets since we have had chances to make them true. The worst are those that still can be done but time has passed. Imagine that you want to have more wild parties but you can not stay up pass midnight; you want to play more sports but your body just quit after a short time; you want to have a romantic and beautiful girl friend but no girl will give you a second look. I know that there are people are defying this by all means. Mid aged women watching romantic TV shows to dream about their own Cinderella story and dream lover. Men (or women) pretend to be twenty something guy (girls) to search for online romance through internet. I really hope that they get their medicines.

People from developing country tend to think that future will be better then today. It is true in most of the case. But this may not be true if you live in a well developed society, especially when you put in the aging factor. We say that there is no medicine to treat the disease of regret but let us try to do some prevention. Let us live a full life now, try our best to have fun day and night, try every way we can think to enrich our lives and do not leave any desire without trying to meet.The sad thing about humanity is that we understand more and deeper about our lives, and we meet narrower limitations in changing our life. They say humans are the only animals know the real meaning of death and can not do anything to avoid that. With the same, we can say that we are the only kind trying hard to provide something that makes us sadder.