It is a life time decision, haste makes waste.
I recall this sentence: men are all bad. I may add that western men are more liberal. I overheard a talk from white high school graduates on road: a call girl for celebration. I witnessed:
A white doctor, a tenant in my cousin's house, revealed his thought of that women are toys to play with, and I witnessed that a girl, a quite successful piano performer flew from Paris to US, stayed couple nights with him, and later, she call in only found no answer of that man, because I received her phone call for asking his where-about. That doctor excused his bad action by this reason: she has so many pets, and she has no regular income, he wants a steady woman. later, I saw his fiancee, a nurse. (i also met his elder brother, looks younger by a contrary, probably less a womanizer).
He said: "Life is to harass woman".also a white guy I met in Myrtle Beach said about his employees: they are my slaves.
Of course there are many opposite stories i'll write next time.