“Your mom and I are in hell right now and the bottom line is marriage is hard. It’s really fuckin hard. It’s just two people slogging through the shit, year after year, getting older, changing - fucking marathon, OK? So sometimes you know you’re together so long you stop seeing the other person, you just see weird projections of your own junk. Instead of talking to each other, you go off the rails and act grubby and make stupid choices which is what I did and I feel sick about it because I love you guys, and your mom, and that’s the truth. And sometimes you hurt the ones you love the most and I don’t know why. You know if I read more Russian novels… Anyway…I just wanted to say how sorry I am for what I did. I hope you’ll forgive me eventually. Thank you.”
这电影把他们两感情的发展和所能达到的程度都表现得很好。最开始在J他们家后院吃饭时，两人眼神若有若无的接触和掠过；然后J去给P修整花园，他们两讨论的时候，J顿住说在P的脸上看到孩子的表情，那两分钟的表演非常出色，你可以看出他们两之间的气氛从那时开始微微改变了。而J的那句“more is more"，就是他们两个关系的预言，注定要发生，即使J读了再多的俄国小说，也会发生。但是观众能从J的表演中看出J对这段关系并不是很投入，她生活的重心始终落脚在她和Nic组建的家庭。所以Paul说出falling的时候，就是她必然要离开的时候。她对Paul的感情从来没有到达让她需要做二选一的程度，Paul只是她婚姻长路走得疲倦时的一次绕行。
For your first recommendation of two, I am going to hold my tongue as I am afraid that some of your pro “蕾丝边” or “同志” readers in SF Bay areas may attack me for my less liberal inclinations. Please don't get me wrong, though; I am not a homophobia or die-hard social conservative, it's just their stuffs are not appealing to me sexually. I think boy-loves-girl is sexier and more romantic, plus to me, girls smell better, and they are easier on my eyes. :)) Then, the second one, I think although sex may not be the younger people's “exclusive right”, the odds are in young people's favor since they tend to be sexually more active as a whole group. To tell the truth, I'd have very difficulty time to imagine my grandparents do it now. Besides, unlike your cash reserves in the bank, our biological drive may not generate any interests with time at all. As a fact of matter, if we don't use it while we are active and able, we'll be surely losing it. At certain point, it may be gradually gone with the wind, just thinking about that would send chills to my mind. :(
So what is my conclusion ? I think that I'd take your words for it and bypass this movie based upon your review and recommendations.
Please don't get offended by my comments. Your review is great, and I like the touching and meaningful connections you drew in terms of marriage and love, which may be unconventional in this case. However, I am a simple guy who has the taste for movies such as Superman, Batman, Transformer, Incredibles … so, a movies requiring a deeper understanding of the endurance of a long and ,sometimes, painful endeavor – marriage is clearly beyond my “pay-grade”. I hope that you would tolerate or ignore my shallow opinions.
Thanks for sharing with us.
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电影没看过，从你们的交谈中大致了解些。我很同意阿苏说的“ The kids are all right, yeah, physically, intellectually, maybe, socially, psychologically, I am not sure.”
觉得故事还是侧重于成人的角度来阐明观点：同性父母家庭跟异性父母的家庭一样能够养育好孩子，至于孩子自小成长过程里要面对的心理压力，一笔带过，因为故事中孩子们几乎成人。 但似乎不难判断，这双儿女的个性明显比他们的母亲们要内向，要压抑。 The kids are all right, yeah, physically, intellectually, maybe, socially, psychologically, I am not sure.
