What lesson my life (relationship) wants me to learn?

1. I can not be too needy-clingy, even if I am really tired, and I really need a lot of love, I can not say it in a demanding way. I can only communicate my need in a stable, calm way. If my partner does not get the message, then just forget about it. If he keeps ignoring my need, I have the choice to leave, even if it is a hard choice, it is a hard choice I need to make sooner or later, maybe sooner is better. 



2. I can not depend my happiness on other people, if other people treat me unkindly, it is their problem.