I clearly see your point. If you have an extra house to give to your son, however, not willing to give it to your son's whole family, then don't give it out. Because it might cause some potential problems between your son and your daughter-in-law. One scenario is that (if your son do not love that girl enough, he will not put his wife's name on the paperwork (whatever that is) for the house. His wife will feel like she is living under other people's roof, not her home. They eventually will fight. Another scenario, if your son desperately loves his wife, he will gift the house to her. You will be unhappy.
So if you have a house to give out, don't do it, if you don't want your daughter in law to share.
Ask your son himself to buy the house, then it is his decision.
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回复flowerinthemirror的评论:
you did not get my point - here we were talking about if someone can have in-law's property.I would consider both wife and husband should contribute to the family by themselves - like most of us.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复欢颜展卷林中闲坐的评论:
Bill Gates' example is one of the examples in my economics class taught by a professor graduated from Cornell University with a degree in Economics. This example tells you that you cannot afford Bill Gates as a housekeeper. As for the example that the husband ask the wife to quit a highly paid job to take care of the family, he must understand her contribution cannot be measured by a housekeeper's salary.
I really suggest you to read some economics textbook, because all these are the very basic concepts.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复欢颜展卷林中闲坐的评论:
It seems to me that you have never taken economics class. Then I suggest you to read some text books.Otherwise, it is very difficult to discuss with you.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复women的评论:
You should not give your house to your son. However, I encourage you to ask your son establish himself (i.e., can support his future family) before getting married.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复欢颜展卷林中闲坐的评论:
I am addressing your comments to "雪花漂飘". How do you think she cannot make more money than a housekeeper?
I know several female PhDs around me, who quit their job (makes a least 6 digits salary) to take care of children. According to them, being with the children worth more than anything. Housekeepers or a nannys cannot take place of a mother. So they are willing to give up something materialistic. Fortunately their husbands does not belittle them and think they have degraded themselves to housekeepers (I am not to say housekeeper is a bad job, only based on salary).
As I know, Bill Gates is not spending time making money now. It seems he is spending time giving out money.
There is another concept called Willingness-to-pay to measure something less tangible.
So for those people, their time is measured by how much they give up for something else that you cannot trade in a market.
回复flowerinthemirror的评论:
Your example is economically irrational. If a wife can earn more money than doing housework, then it makes sense for her to work and hire a housekeeper. Your choice is like Bill Gates giving up the job of CEO and choose to work as a janitor, and ask to be paid millions as a janitor. If Bill is so stupid, he won't become a billionaire.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复flowerinthemirror的评论:
The same theory apply to the case if you ask your wife to quit the job and work at home (as a housewife). It is reasonable for she to ask you to pay the amount she earns from her job that you ask her to quit.
flowerinthemirror 发表评论于
回复欢颜展卷林中闲坐的评论:
There is a concept called "opportunity cost". (Opportunity cost is the cost of any activity measured in terms of the best alternative forgone. It is the sacrifice related to the second best choice available to someone who has picked among several mutually exclusive choices.[1] It is a key concept in economics.) For example, if you ask Bill Gates to do house cleaning for you, you have to pay him much higher salary than what you pay for a regular housekeeper.
The writer is too extreme. America marriage law is not fair either. Such as when you die your 401K account will belong to your spouse no matter what your will is. Two university professors of finance decide live together but not married because marriage penety (extra $20000/year tax). The woman does brest feeding and the man changes diapeer.