儿子十二岁生日party

留住孩子们成长的快乐时光。
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都好几年没给儿子开生日party了。每次到了生日,就给儿子选择的权利:20或30块钱,你决定拿钱还是办party。财迷儿子一直挑选了拿钱。今年生日儿子早早就提出了要求:开party! 也好,马上要进teenager了,该庆祝一下。

老爸老妈商量好,一百块的budget,让儿子自己安排,有节余就进儿子的腰包。争取把这个办party的过程变成儿子学习个人理财(personal finance)的机会。儿子有自己的银行户头,还有自己的小金库,几百块的资金,知道了存钱,利息和银行贷款赚利息差价的基本规律,但要是能学习计划(budget),就是一个新台阶了。

老爸老妈跑腿,每张收据都要保存。从发请帖到网上定pizza,小人儿开始精打细算了--有没有coupon呀?是不是可以打折扣呀?要看DVD,是不是可以上图书馆免费借?没有再考虑租吧。最后是老妈从同事那里找来了变形金刚3,连租金也没有出。当然,老爸老妈的油也是要揩的--餐具一类就不算钱了吧?还有看DVD的时候吃的玉米花,是老爸从上门推销的童子军那里买来的,免费算老爸的贺礼呀。

发了十四张邀请卡,来了八位,从黑到白,老印老中都有,不错。清一色男孩子,老爸老妈一点也不吃惊。吃完pizza,唱完Happy Birthday,一人一把Nerf枪,就在房子里吵翻了天。子弹横飞,沙发椅子全成了掩护物,等到老爸老妈头皮发麻的时候,终于达成停火协议。谁知看DVD更吵,电视的音量大,男孩子还坐不住,爆玉米花也塞不住嘴。看了一半,孩子们自己都受不了,决定出门玩football。长长的三小时,老爸老妈终于盼来了接孩子的家长。

让儿子把一个一个同学送到门口说再见,感谢来参加party。等全部客人都走了,儿子拉着老妈算钱了:party开销90块,收到的礼物里有商店的礼卡(gift card),折算起来有60,最后是老爸老妈还欠他70。这个party办得合算吧。不急不急,有进有出,去同学那里生日party,老爸老妈只负责到20块的礼物,超出部分该儿子自己掏的。

又长大了一岁!

(二0一一年十月八日)
A-mao 发表评论于
回复Lilac2003的评论:
Of course if I have opportunity once I can not hold this job. About 3 years ago, with friends' help, I had an offer from Novartis, and also possible offers from BMS if I told them I was available. However, I like my current position too much--flexible working hours, easy going boss, and my dreaming job on drug screening. So I turned down all of these offers and decided to stay. ( I left my current position for about 2 years to take a job in a small local company when my boss ran out of funding. Eventually he got new funding after my work got published.)

Great that your daughter found her dream job. I am still waiting for my daughter's good new on her job search. For my son, I don't mind if he decides to attend the college I am in, though we do not have such a generous tuition plan for employee's kids. The engineering college of this university is highly ranked. So if I am still here, and he wants to come, it would be great.

Have a nice day!

Lilac2003 发表评论于
Hi A Mao,
Sounds you and your family have a good plan.We have same concern about job security. Good thing is that my daughter already accepted a job offer she likes .My son can attend the college where we work (if he could get in or like to attend,it will be tuition free).However,we have to work on paying mortgage and saving RRSP. Have you ever thought to switch career? Even though I know it is not easy at this age,but just don't want to give up.As my daughter encouraged me "It is never too late to become what you might have been"( by George Eliot), I might have a try.

Let us stay positive way,and just believe God closes a door will open a window.
A-mao 发表评论于
回复Lilac2003的评论:
My pleasure. With the government budget getting smaller, NIH is going to suffer, and the funding from NIH is going to drop dramatically in next few years.

I am still focusing on my personal finance planning. If everything goes as planned, I should be able to pay off my mortgage in 2 years. By then if my wife or myself hold a job, we should have enough to survive. My retirement saving is a little bit ahead than I planned, so hopefully with 2-3 more year job for me, I can get my retirement saving done. The only thing I am not sure at this moment is the college cost for my son.

Life is tough. However, there is always hope!
Lilac2003 发表评论于
Hi A-Mao,

Thank you so much for sharing.I am in same boat with you.Having been research field so many years and feel current years are really tough. I am in NIH training grant. A PhD student at our lab just dropped and will switch to health care field (goes to nurse school)because she could not see her future in scientific field.She is smart.Cancer research should be easier to get funded than basic research. Good luck !
A-mao 发表评论于
回复suanliao的评论:
Yeah, tough year comes for dad and mom.:).

With humor, you will find a lot of fun to deal with teenager boy about money. I tease my kids all the time, and they fight me back. :(.

Enjoy!
A-mao 发表评论于
回复Lilac2003的评论:
Thanks! Wish you and your family a Happy 2012!

We have 2 more years funding from NIH. A DOD grant is going to expire soon. One RO1 is enough to cover me. My boss told me that I am his priority, and he doesn't have to take his summer pay if necessary. Students can take TA position if necessary.

I worry more about the longer future. After this 2 years, we must got new funding. On breast cancer front, we have one compound, which is in the stage for animal test. The mechanism about how this compound works is still not clear. If it works as we thought, we should have no problem to get another round of NIH funding. At the same time, I am starting a new research project, which I worked 5 years ago. At that time, the technology and science are not available for me to go deeper, and NIH did not give us the funding we applied. Now, we have solved a few technical issues, and the science in the field goes very well. We are hoping we have a better chance to get NIH funding. I am currently working on assay development, and hope by Feb. I have enough data for a high throughput screening proposal.

Life is tough, so enjoy whatever I can. Cheers!:).
suanliao 发表评论于
very interesting. my son will be 12 yrs after a few months - he is looking forward to his birthday party.
Lilac2003 发表评论于
like your articles. Have a daughter and a son,they are same age with yours.working as researcher also.How is your boss's funds? Hope everything is going well.

Happy New Year !
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