回复BeautyinAutumn的评论:
You totally missed my point.
As I read your article, I thought about my friend who has an autistic child. Because of that, she rarely has time to do make up and looks much older than her peer. What would she feel if she reads “再不是年华二八,怎么样都好看水灵,素面朝天,你,已没有那个资格了!稍微打扮一下吧?免得让你的男同窗惊叹,女同窗窃喜!”?
As I read your article, I thought about my church sister, who has been taking care of a Down Syndrome son for 20 years. Yes, she looks like “水桶腰身的大妈穿着主妇进厨房的衣服大庭广众之下大声吆喝着孩子吃喝拉撒”, but she is beautiful to me and I am not going to faint because of her looking.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy reading many of your articles and I love to dress up and sport on makeups since I am aging. I, myself, dress nicely everyday to work. My point is: when you write article to public, you’d better apply some sensitivity.
If I were you, I would reword the above sentences by changing “you”to “I” .For instance, 面对镜子,我不觉惊叹岁月的痕迹。我已不再是年华二八,素面朝天都好看的年龄已经过去了。还是稍微打扮一下吧,免得我的男同窗惊叹,女同窗窃喜。
It is important to love yourself, it is also important to think about those who read your articles, especially those who are less fortunate than you…At least don’t use your words to hurt them. By the way, you are a Christian, right?
God Bless!
回复cyou的评论:
I managed to translate two paragraphs from 海云's original article to English.I know it is not perfect but it reflects the original message.
“首先,中年女人应该懂得着装打扮!再不是年华二八,怎么样都好看水灵,素面朝天,你,已没有那个资格了!稍微打扮一下吧?免得让你的男同窗惊叹,女同窗窃喜!”
"First, middle-aged woman should know how to dress up and makeup. When you are 16, you can look beautiful without makeup and dress-up. Now, you are no longer qualified! Please dress up and do some make up, so that your male classmates won’t be surprised (about your aging) and your female classmates won’t secretly feel happy (because you look older than her.)."
“都生活在国外,像样点儿的衣服并不算太贵,又都是专业人士,找一件能够藏得住腰间的赘肉,稍微体现一下还是职业女性的风貌不为过吧,对得起别人更对得起自己! 看到水桶腰身的大妈穿着主妇进厨房的衣服大庭广众之下大声吆喝着孩子吃喝拉撒,我真的要晕倒!”
"We are all living in overseas; it is not too expensive to buy some decent clothes. We are all professionals, to find clothes to hide your fat waist and to show that you are a professional female, am I asking for too much? When I see women having fat waist and dressing kitchen clothes in public and talking loudly to their kids in public, I really want to faint!"
If you still don't feel that the message is lack of sensitivity, please use the above comments to your co-workers. If you go to chuch every Sunday, say it to your sisters. However, before you do so, please make sure you have enough money to counter law suits.
Please don't reply before you do this expeiemnt with your American co-workers :-)
America is a melting pot, make-up or not, it is a personal choice. It has nothing to do with you and you have no right to demand others to have make up.
Conversation topic is also a personal choice. If you and your friend feel comfortable talking about family and kids, it only means you belong to that group. If you don't like it, just walk away and join another group where you feel comfortable about.
Having makeups and dressing nicely are not going to make you superior than others. Wearing baggy clothes and taking care of youngsters do not mean you are inferior as well.
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By the way, I am a professional who happened to have a few years experience as a house wife. I have empathy to both groups and have no prejudice against any.
回复风娉的评论:
if a woman has even skin tone and has no age spots, she can go by without any makeup. But once a woman has dark age spots or liver spots, she should use make up to improve the looks.
so age is not a determine fact but relatively speaking, more women develop age spots when they get older. so yes, midage women should use more make ups