Double bind(zt)

打印 被阅读次数

double bind(双重束缚)—— 语言与态度表里不一...“double bind”是一个心理学专有名词。直译过来说,就是双重束缚。那么,到底什么是 “双重束缚”呢?笔者也有过深切感受。即在人与人之间的交流过程中,会有两种信息,一种是语言信息,另一种是非语言信息,如表情、动作、做法、态度、气氛等。通常,这两种信息会被用在同一方向上。例如,人发怒时,除了斥责的言语,还有与之相应的怒吼、声色一体的表情,身上也会微微地发颤,面红耳赤等。就是说,这种语言信息和非语言信息表现在同一方向上,有一致的状况。但是,在“double bind”的情况下,语言信息和非语言信息会表现在相互矛盾的“方向”上。例如,明明非常气愤,但说话(语言)上却装作不生气的样子;或者,语言上大加斥责,表情却是一副温和的姿态。准确地说,这种情况会令人产生混淆。对于道歉者来说,同时接收到两种相互矛盾的信息时,根本搞不清楚这个人是真的在生气,还是没有生气。两种不同方向上的信息,使人受到双重束缚,这就是所谓的“double bind”。如果从言语上获得的信息和从态度上获得的信息相互矛盾,就会影响人的判断,许多人都只能处于摇摆不定的状态。那么,直接向对方询问“你到底是在生气呢,还是没有生气呢”会怎么样呢?这绝对是最糟糕的做法。因为这种“double bind”类型的人,多数情况下连自己对自己的状况都不清楚。如果这样问的话,他们可能会误以为是在捉弄他们,这样反而会使情况更加糟糕,陷入到“double bind”的恶性循环之中。出现了这样的恶性循环,他们以后就会对人际关系产生不信任感。更有甚者,对于胆小的人来说,很有可能会引发自我信心的崩溃。对于“double bind”类型的人,不能与他们认死理、过分计较。要点:对于“double bind”类型的人,不要询问“到底有没有在生气”。

福田 发表评论于
有修养的人生气的时候表现的都很平静。比如九儿猪,生气的时候都在笑。
登录后才可评论.
Logo

Looks like your ad blocker is on.

×

We rely on ads to keep creating quality content for you to enjoy for free.

Please support our site by disabling your ad blocker.

Continue without supporting us

Choose your Ad Blocker

  • Adblock Plus
  • Adblock
  • Adguard
  • Ad Remover
  • Brave
  • Ghostery
  • uBlock Origin
  • uBlock
  • UltraBlock
  • Other
  1. In the extension bar, click the AdBlock Plus icon
  2. Click the large blue toggle for this website
  3. Click refresh
  1. In the extension bar, click the AdBlock icon
  2. Under "Pause on this site" click "Always"
  1. In the extension bar, click on the Adguard icon
  2. Click on the large green toggle for this website
  1. In the extension bar, click on the Ad Remover icon
  2. Click "Disable on This Website"
  1. In the extension bar, click on the orange lion icon
  2. Click the toggle on the top right, shifting from "Up" to "Down"
  1. In the extension bar, click on the Ghostery icon
  2. Click the "Anti-Tracking" shield so it says "Off"
  3. Click the "Ad-Blocking" stop sign so it says "Off"
  4. Refresh the page
  1. In the extension bar, click on the uBlock Origin icon
  2. Click on the big, blue power button
  3. Refresh the page
  1. In the extension bar, click on the uBlock icon
  2. Click on the big, blue power button
  3. Refresh the page
  1. In the extension bar, click on the UltraBlock icon
  2. Check the "Disable UltraBlock" checkbox
  1. Please disable your Ad Blocker
  2. Disable any DNS blocking tools such as AdGuardDNS or NextDNS

If the prompt is still appearing, please disable any tools or services you are using that block internet ads (e.g. DNS Servers).

Logo