回复officeaffair的评论:
Look at his 回复 to ilovekids的评论:
哈哈，像你这样清醒和真实的人都成了希罕物。看见我们的世界有多么虚伪，我就要反其道而行之，宏扬有飞蛾扑火般勇气的真爱。即使被骂死也在所不惜。我不下地狱谁下地狱?
Yes, he will, he will let Jie walks out of her marriage (飞蛾扑火般勇气的真爱). This is what I expected from him, the least. I will give him a big applause for that.
Go ahead to read some of his articles, he likes to challenge this social normality, and let his roles to live out like normal human being. Beautiful touch with a lot of details and sharpness are from his life experience, not from any of text books.
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回复oldman1000的评论:
As a parent of two teenager girls ( and they start dating :=)), I always tell my girls "DO NOT CHEAT", if you don't like your partner, tell him and work away. CHEATING is unfair to everyone involved. It will taint "the pure love story" and hurt everyone involved.
Wu is a playboy with $$ and power ( unfortunately overpowered by his in-law side ).
Jie is selfish, naive and wants to get the best of both worlds. His dad gave her freedom to choose stay with Wu or else, but she chose to stay with Kang because she is not so sure Wu will eventually stay together with her.
What a pity !
officeaffair 发表评论于
回复思杭的评论:
Thank you for your comments.
In the previously my feedback, I would like to say either one of a couple had an affair, both parts in the marriage definitely will be suffered terribly. Like Jie and Kong in the novel, many factors affect their decision on divorce. I believe Jie and Kong will not be happy in their marriage life for sure. The best way is they get divorced right away. But I think the author (Ping) will not write in such a way. This is most Chinese couples have been doing as I know.
平凡,
Thank you for creating such a good platform for us to discuss this forever topic. The open and honest comments from all of us condense our experience and feeling toward life.
Slowing down from our hastily daily life, and to review what we have been through and are being through help us to regain the strength, to enjoy and appreciate more for what we have.
Badminton2, agree your 平衡点 theory.
ezbots 发表评论于
回复cedar的评论:
Good looking woman have too much attentions have men too easily. They are arrogant. They think grass is greener on the other side. They is why they miss the whole boat. Average looking people's opportunities are hard to come by. When opportunity comes, they grasp it, treasure it. So that group live a lot happier.
cedar 发表评论于
Jie seems to be Tool greedy. What She needs is the perfect guy with the sstrength of wu, yu and kang, which is the hard to find in life.
思杭 发表评论于
回复officeaffair的评论:
Marriage requires a lot efforts; it is not just a task, but a life time project. A relationship between couples based on the trust and understanding. Sometime a little space and distance creates more attraction.
Unfortunately, forgiveness and comprise are also a part of elements to maintain the relationship. Some people like to say I am messed up by my life, but actually they messed up their life. Sneaking around to have an affair is not healthy. Don’t think that staying in this marriage is a good reason for your kids to have a family, because kids don’t need the family like this. Parent’s cheating and infidelity will alter their life attitude when they reach to their age because they are watching. Struggling and pain will not lead family to somewhere. Don’t let burden and hatery carry around you. Either you forgave her and rekindle love you had before, or end it and move on to happy and healthy one. Can you? Will you? Or shall you?
Love and marriage are the world’s endless topics. Remember, you are the one in the charge. Wish we all have happy and healthy ones.
回复叶片的评论:
"我的观点是shape oneself is probably much easier than to shape someone else. "
In some way he did change me. His honesty, kindness, integrity made me want to be a better person. He convert me from a liberal to conservative. Live a code of personal responsibility.
The way to shape someone is to show a better judgement, better solution to his problems. You become his air to breathe. He would be nothing without you.
暂时还不想评 LZ 故事中的人物，不过确实很喜欢简爱的风骨。英国文学史上先有 Charlotte Bronte， 后有 Virginia Wolf，中国文学史上呢？
潘金莲 怎么样？
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回复BeGood123的评论:
暂时还不想评 LZ 故事中的人物，不过确实很喜欢简爱的风骨。英国文学史上先有 Charlotte Bronte， 后有 Virginia Wolf，中国文学史上呢？
婚姻是不容易，但 at the first place, 婚姻应该是建立在爱情的基础上的。在这点上，不应该有任何 comprise，否则为什么要结婚？为了名声，前途，或者他人的看法？没必要嘛！当婚姻成了一种交易或目的，不会幸福是必然的。跟不爱的人在一起生活，不是折磨是什么？看到对方都会讨厌，不要说有肌肤之亲了。
回复ezbots的评论:
回复思杭的评论:
honey, I married a county pumpkin. However he holds highest degree from Ivory university.
If I were Jie, I will shape her husband not her lover. Her lover is already a hot commodity, too much competition. Whilst her husband is green, can have a woman's touch. If jie is smart enough to do so.
这里很少见的评论啊，难得啊。
我的观点是shape oneself is probably much easier than to shape someone else. shape one's husband的后果很可能是in vain.当然，如果能够成功，那这个reward is worth the effort.
There is a saying in US: If a wife has a body affair out of marriage, it is equivalent to send her husband to prison one time in terms of psychological and esteem hurt.
Also from bible: One half of wife’s body belongs to her husband and in the same way, the half of husband’s body belongs to her wife. This is why most American youths have many girlfriends/boyfriends and make love as many as possible before going to marriage. After they get married, most people should be royalty to their spouses. If you cannot make it, please get divorced. Therefore, we know Americans get 50% divorce rate.
回复shotime的评论:
一群怨女maybe. I doubt there are a bunch of guys in this forum.
思杭 发表评论于
回复ezbots的评论:
ha,got your point. lucky you. How about you? 佳境.
bye now.
晓青 发表评论于
可以拍成电视连续剧，很吸引人的故事。好！
ezbots 发表评论于
回复思杭的评论:
honey, I married a county pumpkin. However he holds highest degree from Ivory university.
If I were Jie, I will shape her husband not her lover. Her lover is already a hot commodity, too much competition. Whilst her husband is green, can have a woman's touch. If jie is smart enough to do so.
平凡往事 发表评论于
回复灭虫灵的评论:
哈哈，我是虚构的，不一定有道理
灭虫灵 发表评论于
故事本身很有可读性，谢谢。
思杭 发表评论于
回复方到佳境的评论:
Use the secrete and power that ezbots shared to change your another half to Wu, and enjoy the process, could you or would you? Let me know it is successful.
回复ronggang的评论:
"婚姻从来就是权衡利弊的结果，而爱情是灵肉结合。维持婚姻的唯一方法，就是不断的妥协，和婚姻配偶妥协" I also touched by this sentence. May be to maintain your marriage is not just keep it fresh, also includes 不断的妥协. 平凡, what a good lesson for all of us!!!
ronggang: Do you think Ping will let 妥协 happen to their relationship? Between Jie and Wu are only 灵肉结合.This is pure, unbreakable and forever.
ezbots 发表评论于
回复思杭的评论: mine lasted 15 years and keep going. Stay away from temptation.
思杭 发表评论于
回复ezbots的评论:
the key to a happy marriage is to find a dark horse who worships you and willing do anything for you.
Two key words: A dark horse and worships.
Happy for you found one already.
回复思杭的评论:the key to a happy marriage is to find a dark horse who worships you and willing do anything for you. You can shape him according to your taste. Like tailor made your cloth when you can not find your size. When people asks me how did I find a 20 carat diamond. My answer is when no one wants it.
回复方到佳境的评论:
Your 平哥哥 is at snowy Chicago. Fly there.
You are Jie inside and out. Lovely. Hug
思杭 发表评论于
回复officeaffair的评论:
Your comments express and represent a number of people’s opinion. The perfect marriage should come from 2 people truly in love. Zero tolerance for any kinds of cheats, body or even mind.
However, how many of perfect couples have you seen in your life? I have observed many Chinese couples; only 3 of them can get passed with perfect score. They still look upon each other with a lot of love, admire and appreciation in their eyes. One couple goes to hotel every year to spend their Valentine night after 10-20 years marriage. They keep their love fresh, with no misalliance of disturbance from their daily life. What is the secret?
Interesting to see your blog name “officeaffair”.
方到佳境 发表评论于
回复平凡往事的评论:
平凡大哥，你在德州吗？'如果在，我能不能找你去签名？
红巾 发表评论于
往事兄,有点儿怕你了。你看女人像透明人，透彻入骨啊。^_^
虽然现在的故事情节愈来愈错综复杂，愈来愈引人入胜。我放弃去猜测文章的结果。跟着你的笔走吧。
我也强烈建议拍大片。
officeaffair 发表评论于
When most people admire 洁 and 吴's love, do you think this is how terrible cheating to their spouse. 洁’s father let her to decide her future. She decided to live with 康. Why does she cheat her husband again? So does 吴.
I am pity for 康. 康 has forgiven 洁’s misconduct, which means that he is an open-mind person and loves her. If you are 康, what is your feeling when your wife cheats on you again and again?
Only thing we leant is that don’t keep a marriage if anyone in the couple shows the sign of no love to another anymore.
In the reality, most couples have to keep families because they must consider another very important factor: children. Should we seek our true love and regardless of our children feeling and future? Should we seek affairs in order to keep marriage?
思杭 发表评论于
回复ilovekids的评论:
Hug……
Unforgettable pure and kind…...
In your life, someone pass’ by quickly, someone stays short. , someone stays forever……
Live in the moment …..
In reality, Wu's wife did not give up on her marriage. Life must still go on.
美好的总是昙花一现，相爱不必拥有长久。 Carry these memory ……… Remember at the end in moive 花样年华, whispering to your tree hole.
Ilove Kids, Like your pic, is this Jie in your mind?
