My life is similar to yours. No husband, no children, and I am also not young anymore. But I have a good health and a self-supported living. I never wanted a life like this, and it is not acceptable by Chinese culture. But I have learned to enjoy it - a small independent life. I have a soul mate, even though it is not 100% real. I think, as a woman, as long as she is living a honest, self-reliant life, she should consider herself A LUCKY ONE. Her life should be celebrated, since she does not cause any damage to her surroundings. Cheer up! You are never alone.