What would you do if you had no fear? I came across this question when I was reading the Oprah magazine the other day. I saw all kinds of answers: I would quit my job as an accountant and take some photography courses. I’d like to see if I could make a career out of doing something that inspires me, instead of just working to make a living; I would open a coffee shop in our little town. I work part-time, and on the side I do a lot of baking and cooking for friend. I’d create a place that’s eclectic, warm, and inviting, where I could add a little sunshine to someone’s life; I would spend a year exploring the back roads of this country with my daughters. We’d go see the moving rocks in Death Valley, California, and the willows on the banks of the Mississippi. With nothing stopping us, we’d leave tomorrow……
Sheryl Sandberg asked the same question in her book “Lean in”. When she was giving a commencement address at an all-woman’s liberal arts school in New York City, she said, “…I hope you navigate the difficult times and come out with greater strength and resolve. I hope you find whatever balance you seek with your eyes wide open. And I hope that you – yes, you – have the ambition to lean in to your career and run the world. Because the world needs you to change it. Women all around the world are counting on you. So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? And then go do it.”
Sandberg was trying to encourage women to have the leadership ambition, and to overcome the internal barriers to gaining power. She also acknowledged that not all women want career, not all women want children, and not all the women want both. I really appreciate that. It would be really ideal if people can just do what they enjoy and they’re good at as if there were no fear. But most times the thought of changing career paths and losing ground is scary, even though when you are currently doing something you totally hate.
So what would I do if I had no fear? I know it sounds like a dream – I would sell my property, buy some rental homes, and spend a year in southern France and Italy….. Maybe open a little café or an antique store. Who knows? Maybe someday I will…
33, 在你想做的事情里，至少有两样也是我想做的：开飞机和即兴远足。有没有听过人的一生要有两次肆意的冲动：一场奋不顾身的爱情和一次说走就走的旅行。呵呵。。my brother-in-law is a pilot so that makes me think that it is not hard to fly an aircraft...
九月独处 发表评论于
Again, Sheryl Sandberg is one of the kind!~~
If I have no fear...hmm, I actually had no fear through my life,I actually did lots of things I have never could dreamed about... but I've to admit that all of these, I must thank to my beloved husband, because of he has been always able to give me a sky to dream, give me a strong shoulder to lean on... cheered for me when I succeed,cheered me up when I was down...
So, if I have no fear, my wish is very simple, is to grow older with him, and lived the fullest to our lives everyday...and, one day, when we both have gray hairs, loose teeth,hazy eyesight... we still will be each other's dream lover ...:-) :-)
梅兰松竹 发表评论于
What an inspiring post~~It really made me stare into my inner core.....This is waht I found----
If I had no fear, I would set up my own medical practice in southern California，take care of women the way I prefered, with a team of physician, psycologist, nutritionist and beautician, to make them regain confidence inside out, to empower women both physically and mentally ~~~
Meanwile，I will continue to write about the journey of life, join medical missionary to help others, enjoy traveling to places such as France, Peru, Africa with my loved ones.
Hope these days will be here oneday :)))
Wish all my friends---梦医生，素锦，雪影和珊珊's dreams come true !!!
雪影云痕 发表评论于
{漫步在陌生的城市体味一种漂泊}-----喜欢这句。
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我喜欢新奇和变化，所以我幻想每年给我一个月的时间，让我有一段不同的生活：一个人在陌生又有情调的地方，用朦胧迷茫的目光看陌生人；和陌生人起舞；打着伞在小雨里独自漫步；一个人在小巧的酒吧学饮酒 (because I could not drink)；一个人坐在公园里听鸟唱；但是每天都和他通个电话，让他知道我在惦记着他：))
哈素锦，你就让我们胡思乱想吧：))
ShanShan33 发表评论于
我喜欢这个“IF”，因为它给了我思维的空间，我可以不受任何限制地去“做”我心底渴望做的事。昨天晚上就看到了这个贴子。当时我的脑海里浮现的是我的To do list。然后一想，不对，以为我的To do list上面的事很多是我不得不去做的，有很多是我的责任，并不是我真心想去做，并且享受做的事情。今天早上上班的路上，又想起了这个贴，就让自己的思绪放飞，理一理我的愿望。如果我没有恐惧（其实和恐惧无关），我最想做这些事情：我想做“大型活动策划”，我想看着自己策划的晚会在如梦如幻中开场，在余味无穷中落幕；我想去学开飞机，从一个不同的角度以更广阔的视野去俯视世界；我想即兴地远足旅行，放任自己的疯狂：我想漫步在陌生的城市体味一种漂泊，给我自己独处的时空；我想在雨天和相爱的人坐在窗前听雨，让点点滴滴的浪漫朦胧的回忆再现。。。
可是我又不喜欢这个“IF”，因为是个“虚拟”，只是想想而已。。。
看了大家的“IF”，好象我的最缥缈，哈哈 问好各位！
素锦流年 发表评论于
回复雪影云痕的评论:
雪影, you dream will come true... :)
素锦流年 发表评论于
回复decentdreamer的评论:
和喜欢的人在一起，做自己喜欢的事 - who doesn't want this? hehe....
If I had no fear, I wanted to be an interior designer, had a residency in Manhattan where I would wonder on Fifth Avenue at night; a residence in Paris where I could sit in a small quite coffee shop looking outside, listening
the rain-drops knock on the ground; and a residence in Florence where I could stay in a small garden making love stories:))
