回复mikecwu的评论:
人生不易.我宁可领养一个孤儿也不愿意制造一个生命. Doesn't matter what race she/he is, I rather help kids who need help. There are already too many children in this world, we don't need make more, just to help those kids who still live in poor, then our life can be meaningful as well.
回复ezbots的评论:
Life is fragile and that's why we need more children to hedge risk. Life is like lion and gazelle in African Savanna. I grief the loss of loved ones, but the love for my children can overcome any hit in life. You need to be competitive to survive, and you need to have faith in your children that they can be more competitive than you. You need to have faith that each generation is stronger.
Again, how many children to have is your personal choice. More children will expand your genes is a fact. Expanding genes is good or bad is personal opinion, no right or wrong .
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回复mikecwu的评论:
You are the lucky one I guess. In chinese standard, I was born with a sliver spoon in my mouth. Plus I had a very successful career in China. But fed up with pressure of getting married, I escaped to US and gave up everything I had. After years of hard work I made it and live happily ever after. Having a wealthy husband treats me like queen never upset me. I am living in dream most women desire.
However, I have wisdom to see better than others and being brutally honest.
Here is a human full life story. After you were born, you are arranged to study your ass off. Facing stiff competition. Finally you made to college. After college you searched for an ideal job. Bust you ass to build a career and make money. Afterwards you struggled to find a soul mate. 90% people are unable to achieve. You might end up a bad marriage, a cheating partner, financial crisis, health problem, job loss etc. Then your parents got sick you need to take care of them. You saw them suffer and pass away and there was nothing you could do. You did not choose to be born and yet you can not choose the way to die. I see death at very close range, it is a very painful journey. Unless you are lucky have a sudden death. It will take a decade to get over the grief if you have a heart. And then you are old and facing death yourself. Aging is not for sises, It is very tough.
I am describing a full life for those made it. there are so many others never have a chance to go to college, never see the world, never get married or never have a right spouse. Never have enough money to do things they want to do. Or born less fortunate have birth defect, less intelligent. Let me know if you want bring that on to someone else.
回复ezbots的评论:
You need to find your rightful place in society. I felt life was miserable and unbearable when I was growing up in China. After I came to the U.S., life was full of hope. I found my home here. I have a very successful career, a very good family and I absolutely love my life.
Keep your hope up. If you work hard, life will be good.
On the other hand, if you don't like to work hard, then life is miserable and you might not to want to pass your genes down. In Africa Savanna, every day when the gazelle wakes up, he must worry about outrunning the fastest lion in order to survive another day. The lion too, must worry about outrunning the slowest gazelle in order to catch food to survive another day. Some of them feel tired and don't want to run hard, they die. This is called the survival of the fittest. Same for our human society. If people think life is too hard, then their gene might not be fit to pass down.
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Life is all about strive and endure. My parents brought me to this world without my consent. Should I knew life is that hard, I would never want to be born. The pain of loosing loved ones is unbearable.
