Another bad habit is sometimes the host/hostess of a party like to open all the gifts given to them by guests. Thnk about this --- If you hvae 10 guests, some of them may buy an expensive one and some may not, it also depends on the relationship with the host family. But revealing all these gifts in front of everybody is really a dumb idea. But somehow some people just like to do that.
大顶。
我觉得其实在美国也一样，只不过程度不同而已。不然EQ从哪来的?
有个性的人不一定受欢迎。Steve Jobs 早年不是也被fired了吗? 当然，大牛是不用考虑这些的。普通人就需要了。
eaglewings 发表评论于
大顶！！
I've learned the hard way..
早看到这篇就好了。 每天在文学城上学到东西。 谢谢！
7grizzly 发表评论于
What we truly need here are
1. The first star has the courage and the peace of mind to say yes,
2. The 2nd star has the courage to think differently and say no, and
3. The audience and society to understand and respect individual choices.
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复武胜的评论:
So true.
All I can say is that I'm so happy I live in the US.
I'd be crushed if I live in China because I don't have
the extra brain cycles to process the hidden rules.
The need for social proof is everywhere but at least the
US tradition respects and admires individualism and
despises conformity and foolish consistency.
数字证 发表评论于
的确如此，自己就不会想到。
粉玫瑰 发表评论于
很喜欢刘墉的文章。
qsnfj 发表评论于
in this example:
when one gives "red package" to the host's child, the others can say "that is so sweet of you".
when a friend offers to give 50 yuen for tips to the valet parking guy, let him /her do that, the other can say "thank you for covering it".
you don't have to follow, always if you don't want to.
