看到几个帖子这么说我们小中，我开始难过了。
我住德州大农村，我周围的孩子们基本一个模式，周末去教会，平时很多活动，在学校学习都还不错。
一个同事的女儿正在组织一系列的义演给老人院的老人们，每个月一次，请到的中国小孩儿从四岁到十六岁不等。那孩子参girl scout，舞蹈全州比赛级得奖，在老人院里义工做了几年了。她哥哥，在学校打水球，boy scout到鹰级荣誉，很小就已经编游戏程序卖钱了。他们的母亲，一直陪伴他们，带他们去香港参加过奥数比赛，这两个孩子不仅是她的骄傲，连我都为之骄傲。
我儿子和他的亚裔同学们，自小在教会长大，对做义工，做各种慈善活动根本就是家常便饭，不为拿credit，他甚至不理解为什么他做了义工要跑去登记让别人知道。他们每月一次定期在外面聚会沟通谈自己的状况，每周日下午在教会乐队排练，每一个孩子，至少有一项音乐长项，有的跳舞，有的马拉松，乐器至少会一种，学习我就不用说了。
在学校里，我看到的亚裔面孔的孩子跟其他任何肤色的孩子一样，乐队演出之后跟着搬乐器，做善后，没有一个例外。孩子们言行得体，对人有礼貌。我周围的小中们，没有电影里演的那种书呆样儿，各个调皮捣蛋风趣好玩儿，到家里来玩几个孩子能掀翻房顶。
子女坛里的孩子，打高尔夫的，摔跤的，参加唱歌比赛的，到南极参加探险的，到偏远地区参加助教的，太多太多了，我才来了半年多，就看到了这么多的好孩子，怎么到了你们眼睛里就什么都没有了呢！！！
怎么这样的孩子就被我们自己种族的家长们给嫌弃了呢。
那些嫌弃中国孩子的家长们你们嫌弃自己的孩子吗？还是你们嫌弃你们自己孩子以外的中国孩子们？
为什么中国人老嫌弃自己族裔的孩子
soundofsilence 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
I have to say that you probably will benefit a lot from going back to grade school and learn some reading comprehension. You are extremely good at twisting others' opinion and feeling good about yourself because of it.
I have to say that you probably will benefit a lot from going back to grade school and learn some reading comprehension. You are extremely good at twisting others' opinion and feeling good about yourself because of it.
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 算了，你爱怎么看别人就怎么看吧。道不同，无需多言，祝好。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 哥儿们，不打不相识，英文这么利索，中文也挺利索的妇男还真不多。砖下留请，飞飞我码字速度快，不能保证篇篇水准够哈，谢谢你来留言。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '7grizzly' 的评论 : 你太可爱了。俩人英文都那么好，吵得火花四溅文采飞扬的，搞得我这个学英文的都不敢扔词儿了。小博有你蓬荜生辉，以后请一定常来坐坐，飞飞奉茶一杯。
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
I'm so sorry. That poem was to 羽衣飞飞.
I'm so sorry. That poem was to 羽衣飞飞.
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
> Jesus asked to himself all the time. Shouldn't you, too?
Jesus never did. He knew who he was right off the bat.
> Jesus asked to himself all the time. Shouldn't you, too?
Jesus never did. He knew who he was right off the bat.
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '羽衣飞飞' 的评论 :
No problem. I enjoyed it.
No problem. I enjoyed it.
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
> You don't give a damn to anybody - because you're nobody.
I don't give a damn to anybody in spite of being myself nobody.
A poem for you
I'm nobody! Who are you?
Are you nobody, too?
Then there's a pair of us — don't tell!
They'd banish us, you know.
How dreary to be somebody!
How public, like a frog
To tell your name the livelong day
To an admiring bog!
> You don't give a damn to anybody - because you're nobody.
I don't give a damn to anybody in spite of being myself nobody.
A poem for you
I'm nobody! Who are you?
Are you nobody, too?
Then there's a pair of us — don't tell!
They'd banish us, you know.
How dreary to be somebody!
How public, like a frog
To tell your name the livelong day
To an admiring bog!
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
> it's neither complex nor unkind.
It is complex unless you are a simpleton. And you are unkind.
> Am I condescending to you - because at least you have moral subconsciousness.
Don't give me that BS. Nobody gives a damn about your superficial psychology here.
> You don't give a damn to anybody
How do you know?
> - because you're nobody.
That's true. But the whole sentence is not.
> You don't even know who you are.
Again how do you know and who are you to tell?
> it's neither complex nor unkind.
It is complex unless you are a simpleton. And you are unkind.
> Am I condescending to you - because at least you have moral subconsciousness.
Don't give me that BS. Nobody gives a damn about your superficial psychology here.
> You don't give a damn to anybody
How do you know?
> - because you're nobody.
That's true. But the whole sentence is not.
> You don't even know who you are.
Again how do you know and who are you to tell?
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 当一个人用”家庭妇女”敢出来辩论这些词的时候。他需要的是一个真诚的道歉。别的话题，已经无需讨论。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '7grizzly' 的评论 : 谢谢你。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '米柯' 的评论 : 还有一些父母更早敦促孩子独立。我见过条件很好的家庭都不给孩子买车，都让他们自己挣来。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 我很荣幸可以作为妇女参与辩论。请记住，不管是妇女，还是儿童，都需要予以尊重。这是男人最基本的风度。
米柯 发表评论于
付大学学费很正常。白人孩子如果父母出学费一样高高兴兴地接受。只不过美国人开销大，很多父母攒不下这笔钱罢了。
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
It's very arrogant the way you speak to the author. It's not what you say, it's the condescending way you say it--as if you are the only one who own truth in such complex matters. The truth, if any, withered the moment it's out of your unkind mouth.
It's very arrogant the way you speak to the author. It's not what you say, it's the condescending way you say it--as if you are the only one who own truth in such complex matters. The truth, if any, withered the moment it's out of your unkind mouth.
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
I don't have to give a damn about ancestors or Jesus just because some bozo speaks in their names.
As for ``who am I'', you can ask, but who are you to tell?
I don't have to give a damn about ancestors or Jesus just because some bozo speaks in their names.
As for ``who am I'', you can ask, but who are you to tell?
7grizzly 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 :
Amazing. So you are the one who really understand what 祖宗 want. Maybe that's only your 祖宗 but then so what?
And you define what culture people should want. That's even more amazing. It must be a very satisfying job.
Amazing. So you are the one who really understand what 祖宗 want. Maybe that's only your 祖宗 but then so what?
And you define what culture people should want. That's even more amazing. It must be a very satisfying job.
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 'happyfeet2011' 的评论 : 啥叫WF女啊？
happyfeet2011 发表评论于
LZ, 有一种精神病叫"自恨"(Self Hate/Discriminate),有一个此病多发人群叫中国WF女,后传染无知自卑到抵抗力低下的其它中国易感人群,造成如今泛滥之局面.
你在这和精神病人讨论发病原因,有什么意义吗?
你在这和精神病人讨论发病原因,有什么意义吗?
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '亦中' 的评论 : 分怎么责，让对方感动了悔改了的，就是责对了；如果话语里充满鄙视和嫌弃，那就是不是责备，而是打击了。
亦中 发表评论于
爱之深， 责之切！
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '惜福666' 的评论 : 独立礼貌我觉得都是父母教的。我也是发现很多ABC不爱理大人，专门拿这个跟儿子讲的，要求儿子见面必须打招呼。至于独立，唉，上大学要不要供啊？！这是个问题。只能先逼出去打工了。至于学费，我还是计划出，不出，心里愧疚-这应该也是文化遗产吧？
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '风过草吟' 的评论 : 谢谢分享，确实有道理。
惜福666 发表评论于
我的感觉是很多ABC们学到了美国孩子的缺点， 但美国孩子独立有礼貌没学到。 我儿子abc朋友到我家看到就像没看到一样， 招呼也不打。 别的族裔的孩子大多都大招呼。 而且华人孩子用爸妈的钱上大学， take for granted。 花爸妈钱一点不心痛， 打工自立意识不浓。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 一笑。中国文化包括看不起妇女，不屑于了解另一种文化，即使那是真理。这是我加上的。
风过草吟 发表评论于
个人之见：1，中国人心里种族歧视观念非常强 2，中国父母不是无条件“爱”孩子的。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 'MMMMM06' 的评论 :如果连这个都是缺点，我们也太悲催了。
MMMMM06 发表评论于
同意你，华人孩子大多很优秀，学习好不是缺点！
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 我糊涂了，那啥是中国文化啊？
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 'rancho2008' 的评论 : 谢谢指正，改过来了。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 中国文化本来就渗透在我们生活里，同时生活在美国是学另一种文化的精华，没指在中国长大的孩子。
rancho2008 发表评论于
帮你改个错，是Scout 不是scott
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 把我原帖中第一句加上了。因为是博客，没想那么多。
羽衣飞飞 发表评论于
回复 '无知无为' 的评论 : 我这是存底贴，在教育坛针对一些现象发的帖子。
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