Last night before my birthday, I had a conversation with my eighty-year-old mother about the \"Family Rules\".\"It is too late to regret the mistakes of the past\" is a sentence from the \"Yan Family Rules\" written by the literati of the Northern and Southern Dynasties, Yan Zhi, to his descendants... Recently, I feel that time is passing quickly. On the eve of my birthday, I had a meaningful conversation with my mother about family rules and I took notes.My mother, who studied at Hangzhou Girls\' Private School in her early years, is now over eighty years old. She is sharp-minded and plays the piano. My \"specialty\" as a piano tuner... The ancient family rules of Chinese overseas Chinese for the guidance of their children are led by \"Yan Family Rules\". This book is regarded as the ancestor of ancient Chinese family rules, giving later generations a lot of information and references.\"It is better to be talented than to accumulate wealth\" is not something that can be easily acquired, nor is it exchanged for reading or accumulating millions of money... The best interpretation of having a specialty should be to remind the family to read more and think more, and the best combination of mind and body is the specialty. The most admirable thing is to read. \"If you have not seen all the books in the world, do not rashly criticize them\" before seeing all kinds of books in the world, do not rashly comment on things you don\'t understand. Everyone has their own knowledge blind spot. In the face of things you don\'t understand, it is easy to make biased judgments.\"When people see someone read dozens of books, they become arrogant and despise the elderly and treat their peers lightly. People hate them as if they were enemies, and despise them as if they were owls. Such learning attitude will damage themselves, so it is better not to learn\" My mother said, after seeing countless readers, especially those with a high education level, they seem to think that they are superior, and they can\'t stand others, including their own people! \"Angry elders\"... My mother said that when she saw such people, it was like seeing an enemy, and felt that it was as hateful as an owl. Such a learning attitude is equivalent to self-destruction, and it is better not to learn. My mother admonished later generations that they should have a humble attitude when they read and learn. If they feel superior after reading a few books, it may be too shallow.\"Most people in the world are blinded, they value their ears and despise their eyes, they value distant people and despise close people\" In today\'s world, most people are blinded by some phenomena, that is, they would rather believe in rumors than believe in their own eyes; they would rather believe in others\' talents than believe in the capable people around them. This sentence admonishes later generations to have correct judgment and not to ignore the talents and functions of people around them. For many years, my mother has been teaching her children how to be a person and how to do things, maintain the relationship between family members (including care) and be physically and verbally excellent.\"In all things in the world, one in ten fails because it is difficult, and nine in ten fail because of laziness\" In all things in the world, only one in ten fails because it is difficult, but nine in ten fail because of laziness. This sentence admonishes later generations not to give up because of difficulty, nor to give up because of laziness. As long as we persist and work hard, we will surely achieve success. My mother regarded me as a treasure and taught me to master the piano tuning technology more than twenty years ago and to achieve today\'s results... It is valuable to have perseverance.Many educational concepts preserved today, such as \"Yan Family Rules\" and \"Zhu Zi Family Rules\", are quite classic, but the precious bits and pieces of my mother\'s \"family rules\" are the guiding lights in our hearts. ... From the apprenticeship in the piano factory to the visit and study in the Steinway factory, my mother\'s company and admonition have benefited me, a piano tuner in New York, for life. Thank her for her longevity and health!
