回复 'elfie' 的评论 :
Thank you for leaving long comments on my blog. I appreciate your honesty and openness, and I'm glad that you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts openly.
I agree with you that it's important to be vulnerable and to let our guard down sometimes. It can be difficult to do, but it's worth it in the long run. When we open ourselves up to others, we create deeper connections and build stronger relationships.
I also agree with you that there are many different ways to enjoy life. Dressing up nicely is just one way, and it's not the only way that's important. There are many other things that can bring us joy and we should live the fullness of our life on the earth, as mentioned in Ecclesiastes 9:7-9, 7 Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. 8 Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. (not literally, meaning spending time and effort) 9 Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun.
I appreciate your sharing your thoughts about your mom's expectations. It sounds like she wants you to look your best because she loves you and wants you to be happy.
The longer you stay in America, this beautiful country formed by immigrants, the different lenses you will use to look at people, you won’t notice the skin color of the people. You will appreciate the diversity of the community and the different kinds of beauty from different races.
Finally, Just want to share a quote from Matthew 6:27, 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life? It's a reminder that we shouldn't worry about things that are beyond our control. And you will find that almost nothing is under our control. So why worry about them?
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I'm always amazed by the people or women like you. Honestly I don't care if I look good because very few people around me care about it. The people working in my school are mostly females and blacks. In this school no one cares about their looks. At another school I worked at before, teachers apparently dress better than this current one. Maybe that attribute to school performance too? Or it's just a coincidence and not causal effects. My mother, who lives 7000 miles away from me, is the only person that cares about fashion. And the most strange thing is she wants me to look good too. Why? it beats me. In the world I live in, dresses and skirts are so rare it's negligible. Most Americans are in T-shirts and weird tops and bottoms, too obese to fit into a nice dress or slacker. Beauty is not an issue or concern for most people. Indeed we live in different worlds, my mother and I. There is so much more to worry about in daily life than an outfit.