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@twalatka
6 days ago
I'm adopted. As an adult I have found my biological family. I would have been devastated if I would have been taken away from my Mommy and Daddy. Blood does NOT make a Mommy or a Daddy. Love does!!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cnd91IkxJMw
"I'm adopted. As an adult I have found my biological family. I would have been devastated if I would have been taken away from my Mommy and Daddy. Blood does NOT make a Mommy or a Daddy. Love does!! When a child said to parents, "You did not get my permission before you brought me to this world," how do you answer his/her question? "I was adopted but, opposite for me…my adoptive mother was such an abuser!!! My biological mother I found was a gentle kind and loving a mom!! She was poor and couldn’t afford to keep me. Honestly I would have loved to be with her even though she was poor. She was so loving, and the way she looked at me made me feel like the sun shone just for me.."
ChatGPT
It's clear from your personal experience that the love and care a parent provides are far more important than biological connections. When a child, whether adopted or not, expresses feelings of being brought into the world without their permission, it's an opportunity for a parent to have an open and empathetic conversation. Here's how you might respond to such a question:
Acknowledge Their Feelings: Start by acknowledging and validating their feelings. Let them know that their thoughts and emotions are important and that you're there to listen and support them.
Explain the Decision: Explain the circumstances and reasons behind the decision to adopt or bring them into the world. In your case, you might say something like, "Your biological mother loved you very much, but she faced challenges and circumstances that made it difficult for her to raise you. She wanted what was best for you, and that's why she made the difficult decision to have you adopted."
Emphasize Love and Choice: Emphasize that the decision to bring them into the world was made out of love. You can say, "Even though you didn't have a say in being born, your biological mother and I wanted you in our lives because we love you deeply."
Highlight the Importance of Love and Care: Reiterate that what truly matters in a parent-child relationship is the love, care, and support provided. You might say, "What makes a parent isn't just biology; it's the love, care, and nurturing that they offer. We are here for you, and our love for you is unwavering."
Respect Their Feelings: If they express a desire to know more about their biological family or have questions about their past, be open to discussing it. It's important to respect their curiosity and help them navigate those emotions.
Encourage Open Communication: Let them know that they can always come to you with questions and feelings, and that you'll do your best to provide honest and supportive answers.
Share Your Experience (If Applicable): If you have a similar background, like being adopted yourself, share your own experiences and emotions. This can help them feel understood and less alone in their feelings.
Therapeutic Support: If your child's emotions and questions become particularly complex or challenging to navigate, consider seeking the guidance of a therapist or counselor who specializes in adoption-related issues. They can provide valuable support to both you and your child.
Ultimately, the key is to create a safe and loving environment where your child feels heard, understood, and cherished for who they are, regardless of their biological origins. Love and nurturing are what truly make a family, as you've beautifully expressed in your own experience.
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Your writing should be incorporated with the below: Like Dandelion Dust (2009) | Full Movie "A young boy is torn away from his adoptive parents by his alcoholic, abusive birth parents. Director: Jon Gunn Writers: Stephen J. Rivele, Michael Lachance, Karen Kingsbury Stars: Mira Sorvino, Barry Pepper, Cole Hauser
ChatGPT
Certainly, I can provide a response that incorporates the context of the film "Like Dandelion Dust" (2009), where a young boy is torn away from his adoptive parents by his alcoholic and abusive birth parents. Here's how you might respond to a child's question in the context of this film:
Child: "You did not get my permission before you brought me to this world."
Parent: "I understand that you have questions and feelings about how you came into this world. It's a lot like the story we saw in 'Like Dandelion Dust,' where a young boy had two sets of parents, just like you do. His birth parents were struggling with their own challenges, and they made some decisions that affected his life."
Child: "But why didn't they ask for my permission?"
Parent: "Well, sometimes life doesn't give us a choice in how we come into the world. But what's important to know is that just like in the movie, love played a big role in bringing you into our lives. We wanted you so much, just like the adoptive parents in the film, and that's why you became a part of our family."
Child: "But what if my birth parents loved me too?"
Parent: "They might have loved you in their own way, but they also had difficulties they were dealing with, much like the birth parents in the movie. Love can take different forms, and sometimes it means making tough choices for the well-being of the people we care about."
Child: "I wish I could have stayed with them."
Parent: "I hear you, and it's okay to have those feelings. Just remember that what truly matters is the love and care we have for each other. We may not have had a say in how we came together, but the love we share as a family is what makes us strong and connected, just like the adoptive parents in 'Like Dandelion Dust.'"
Child: "I love you too."
Parent: "We love you more than anything in the world, and we're here for you, no matter what questions or feelings you have. That's what families do – they support and love each other, just like in the movie."
Incorporating elements from "Like Dandelion Dust" helps contextualize the response and allows for a deeper conversation about the complexities of love, family, and the circumstances of the child's adoption.
