回复 'elfie' 的评论 : You have made a mistake. Unlike painting, people's sense of elegance and attractiveness are not something you can have or have without. You can pursue depth and contrast in painting, but as a person if you can deliberately show a sense of high-end and attractiveness, that's just pretending. In the same way, deliberately being humble and being yourself is also pretending. So, just be yourself. As for whether you have a sense of high-end and attractiveness, that is other people's feelings, and it actually has nothing to do with you. My article only objectively explains where the sense of luxury and attraction come from. Whether these two points should be achieved is beyond the scope of my explanation.
你搞错了一件事,跟绘画不一样,人的高级感和吸引力不是你想有就有,想没有就没有的。画画你可以去追求深度和反差,但做人如果你可以刻意的去表现出高级感和吸引力,那就是装。同样道理,刻意的去谦虚的做好自己也是装。所以,就是简单的做自己就好,至于有没有高级感和吸引力,那是别人的感觉,跟你自己其实没什么太大的关系。我的文章只是客观的阐述高级感和吸引力从何而来,是不是应该做到这两点,不在我的阐述范围之内。
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I don't care whether I am attractive or not. Actually I shouldn't be attractive to just anyone out there because I am married and don't want to have a date with anyone. Most people like me don't need to be attractive or don't want to be attractive. It plays a negative role if you're very attractive to passers-by.
Just be yourself in modesty. That's it. Not dress in rags or pjs, be normal.