thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I have similar considerations and try to find some solutions. I will probably elaborate more on this when I get more mature ideas.
elfie 发表评论于
I think having a few good friends is more important than being married and having children. Yes, I do love my children. But one day or another they'll leave me and have their own family and friends, or even children.
I decided I need to build a social network for myself before I get too old to get out of my house. This has never occurred to me before in my 30 s and 40 s. I was busy building my relationship and raising children. Now I realized it shouldn't be that way, I need to extend my friend circle for old ages.
Where to find like minded people? Not in churches but in the synagogue where I found whom I'd like to be with. It's a community nearby and it's a very small community where people come and go. Luckily I found a nice young woman there, who wants to befriend me. What a success! On top of my conversion, I scored friendship and kindred spirit! I love Jews. It's a small minority just like what I am, in the sea of blacks and conservative Christians in the Southeast. I've tried different groups of people, this is the right match for me. Blacks? Whites? Christians? No. Often I find them either unfriendly and guarded or biased against others, especially the local blacks. By working in a school of majority black staff for a few months, I learned it'd never work out for me. Actually the experience was terrible. No offense to anyone, those people's manners are not for me. Their culture is not for me.
