暴 = Violence
WHAT is PUA? "看楼下一位妹妹回我的帖子感觉她不仅被家人老公PUA惯了,她也已经会自己PUA自己了,真让人难过"她明明很优秀。
WHAT is PUA? "看楼下一位妹妹回我的帖子感觉她不仅被家人老公PUA惯了,她也已经会自己PUA自己了,真让人难过"她明明很优秀。
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In the context of the sentence "看楼下一位妹妹回我的帖子感觉她不仅被家人老公PUA惯了,她也已经会自己PUA自己了,真让人难过," PUA stands for "Pick-Up Artist." However, within Chinese internet slang, "PUA" has been repurposed to describe a form of psychological manipulation and emotional abuse.
Here’s a detailed explanation of PUA in this context:
Here’s a detailed explanation of PUA in this context:
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Psychological Manipulation: PUA refers to tactics used to manipulate someone into feeling inferior or dependent. This manipulation often involves undermining the person's self-worth and confidence through consistent criticism, gaslighting, and emotional control.
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Emotional Abuse: The term now encapsulates a broader spectrum of emotional abuse where one person exerts control over another, making them feel worthless or constantly at fault.
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Internalization: In the sentence, it is noted that the young woman ("妹妹") has not only been subjected to PUA by her family and husband but has also started to internalize this manipulation to the point where she begins to abuse herself emotionally ("自己PUA自己").
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Recognition of Excellence: Despite the manipulative behavior she faces, the speaker acknowledges that she is indeed very excellent ("她明明很优秀"), which makes the situation even more distressing.
References:
- PUA Manipulation
- PUA in Chinese Context
Journalist Hugo Rifkind participated in a similar seminar by Strauss. Rifkind describes initially struggling with pickup techniques, eventually learning to attract women's interest, and then feeling guilty. When he attracts a woman's attention, "she is – quite honestly – looking at me like I'm the most fascinating person she's ever met. As a human being and, perhaps more crucially, as somebody with a girlfriend, I feel like absolute scum."[53]
Academic research[edit]
An academic paper on the community, published in 2012 by Eric C. Hendriks in the journal Cultural Analysis, details the value system guiding successful pickup artists based on an international study including participant observation of boot camp and "lair" meetings in Germany. The article argues that the values of successful practitioners of the "Venusian arts" are informed by an intertwining of "hedonistic goals and diffused forms of innerworldly asceticism". According to Hendricks, the hedonistic goal of sexual satisfaction interacts in a complex fashion with a set of "disciplinarian and ascetic values", and the author stresses that these disciplinarian and ascetic values are central to the value system of performant practitioners, even though the marketing of gurus often promises an easy, effortless "quick fix".[54]
Andrew King's cultural history of the pickup artist in the journal Sexuality & Culture argues that, as a genre, the growth of PUA philosophy parallels the rise of feminism in academic and popular culture – and in some ways can be seen as a critique of its limitations, particularly the idea of gender egalitarianism.[55]
Consistent with this line of thinking, psychologist Petra Boynton has stated that there is "no evidence of effectiveness" for any claims by pickup artists.[56] On the other hand, a 2012 academic review article in Evolutionary Psychology by Nathan Oesch and Igor Miklousic argues that many of the principles advocated by the community – including generating attraction, establishing rapport, and achieving mutual seduction – appear to have a degree of evidence-based support in social, physiological, and evolutionary psychology.[57]
"初恋的异地恋确实是有问题的。但是要一个人长厢厮守,而又不顾及对方的感受让其牺牲,也不是好的选择吧?
玫瑰在云端就应该是金童玉女的生活吧!不能为初恋放弃自己,而和一个经济适用男委屈在一起,心里上面还要PUA自己这就是平平淡淡的生活,或者生活本来就是这样子的。在初恋那里不能有的一点点迁就以后竟然可以在其他人那里迁就。真是应了这句老话,出道即巅峰。玫瑰这样的女孩心里面应该是不服输很自我的,否则就去巴黎啦。她潜意识里面不可能踏踏实实的过柴米油盐的生活的,电视剧里面演的她enjoy做饭在现实生活中估计就是三分钟热度。她要人懂,要能给她足够的情绪价值。我倒不觉得玫瑰对物质的要求有多高。
只可惜经济适用男没有摆正自己的位置。这样的女孩子不是属于他的。新鲜劲过了之后,玫瑰不可能在他这里停留的。如果玫瑰真的跟着他过下去的话,估计早早就凋零了成为了黄脸婆之一而不是继续盛开的黄玫瑰。善良的经济男也是生活的受害者啊。
旗鼓相当的爱情才是爱情吧。看来看去不觉得玫瑰对经济男有过爱情。尽管爱情的保质期很短。
玫瑰是不应该被生活琐事消耗的。试想一下现在生活中又有谁能做到让玫瑰在他的怀里肆意生长,长盛不衰呢?我好像有点儿理解37岁天仙的选择啦。"
from: 两情若是久长时,又岂在朝朝暮暮
"Long-distance relationships with first loves indeed have their issues. However, asking someone to stay together forever without considering their feelings and making them sacrifice isn't a good choice either, right?
For Rose in the clouds, life should be like that of a golden couple! One shouldn't give up on themselves for their first love and then settle with a financially stable man, compromising and internally convincing themselves that this is an ordinary life or that life is just like this. The little compromises you couldn't make with your first love, you somehow manage to make with someone else later.
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It truly proves the saying, 'you peak when you debut.' A girl like Rose shouldn't be easily defeated and is likely very self-centered; otherwise, she would have gone to Paris. Deep down, she can't settle for a mundane life of bread and butter. The drama portrays her enjoying cooking, but in real life, it's probably just a fleeting interest. She needs someone who understands her and can provide her with enough emotional value. I don't think Rose has very high material demands.
It's just a pity that the financially stable man didn't position himself correctly. A girl like her doesn't belong to him. Once the novelty wears off, Rose won't stay with him. If Rose really followed him, she would likely wither early, becoming just another housewife rather than continuing to be the vibrant yellow rose. The kind-hearted man is also a victim of life.
Love between equals is real love. Looking at it, I don't think Rose ever had real love for the financially stable man, despite love's short shelf life.
Rose shouldn't be worn down by life's trivialities. Think about it, who in today's world can make Rose thrive endlessly in their arms? I think I can somewhat understand the choice of a 37-year-old angel now."
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• 顺便说一下,佟大为和林更新最近一集见家长的演技都很了得! -翻篇了- ♀ (0 bytes) (52 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 11:13:38
• 初恋的庄某是富家子, 分手了玫瑰老哥还要去挽救。二恋是穷人家孩子,老哥+老爸都觉得他心思不纯。编剧观念有问题啊 -bluey- ♂ (0 bytes) (12 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 12:32:33
• 我也觉得二恋非常虚伪,非常假。与这种平庸的人一起生活,非常无聊,没有激情,没有共同语言,玫瑰图什么?他根本配不上玫瑰! -朦胧的心- ♀ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 12:38:44
• 玫瑰和那位同学没有爱情。可是这样的事多得很。没有利益的爱情难有。世间婚姻无尽,爱情难得。 -茵芯- ♂ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 13:19:21
• 必须朝朝暮暮 -Zhuzitaba- ♂ (82 bytes) (22 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 15:26:26
• 语言的尽头是诗歌,我想起【微暗之火】 -大兔子张三- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 15:47:43
• 楼上说的我都同意,我不喜欢一二,等着三四,林更新这个老公真无趣,是个好人,可靠。 -大兔子张三- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 06/14/2024 postreply 15:43:21
关于天仙
以前从来没有看过她的戏,乱七八糟的新闻听说过不少,很多让人恶心难以置信。有个同事武汉来的,说天仙亲生父亲家里是高知家庭,但是不认天仙。
后来偶然看了梦华录和有风的地方,还看了她的访谈,一下子就改观了印象,觉得天仙漂亮性格也好,挺接地气的。就期待着玫瑰。
刚在城楼看到了天仙干爹监制玫瑰故事,怎么一下子让人倒了胃口。天仙好像是没听说过啥个男朋友,也快40了吧。真像网上说的她妈害了她吗?又联想到了谷爱凌,哈哈。
记得之前的一个访谈说大学时候的天仙喜欢朱亚文,朱现在孩子都很大了吧?
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• 她以前不是有个韩国男朋友吗? -crabtree12- ♂ (0 bytes) (43 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 12:25:50
• 我是信的 -月色浅浅- ♀ (0 bytes) (93 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 13:31:19
• 我也信 -在水四方- ♀ (231 bytes) (294 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 20:14:26
• 是的,看来你也是一定知道更多的事的,我们已经很克制地尽量少说话了 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (15 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 21:57:28
• 何止天仙,娱乐圈多少这样的资本,天仙还有颜个子也高,有些要啥没啥,天天挂热搜营销 -Jessy99- ♀ (0 bytes) (21 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 13:51:32
• 红得太早。她要是不在乎姐弟恋,还有机会。长相一般的女演员通常啥都没耽误。 -伊猫- ♀ (0 bytes) (19 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 14:07:30
• 我宁可信其无 -山核桃酥- ♀ (96 bytes) (381 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 14:18:54
• 很可能老男人对她有妄想而不得,得不到就使出手段毁其名誉,利用妒忌利用文化中对女人的狠,搞出那么不堪的流言。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (17 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 15:11:30
• 刘演技不行,靠自己怎么可能有这么好的资源。 -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 16:53:45
• 她有人捧, 出明早, 她的十八岁成人礼宴是在钓鱼台办的, 陈金飞花了一百万, 二十年前的一百万。没人敢追。炒CP也不行。 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) (32 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 15:06:33
• 不管真假,这个陈金飞真是超级猥琐,不知道跟杨采钰结婚是真是假。 -CarriePanda- ♀ (0 bytes) (17 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 15:58:59
• 陈金飞长得像个变态。。。和杨可能是假结婚? 查了一下, 已经离了。 -chloezj1992- ♂ (0 bytes) (17 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 16:13:33
• 假结婚?你去查查0菲,1菲,2菲和3菲的故事吧,以及陈为何要给她改名叫“亦菲” -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (62 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:12:25
• 你是专业娱记? -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:21:28
• 就一个涉过天涯的老文青,觉得娱圈的真实故事要比资本强喂的没有逻辑没有演技的电视剧好看多了 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (20 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:37:38
• 真实超过了人的想象 -月色浅浅- ♀ (0 bytes) (8 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 20:12:15
• 真实故事?老文青? 我看你就是个趣味低级的老八卦:) -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 21:11:21
• 你才可怜了,被资本喂屎还替他们辩护,幼稚的发言让人忍俊不住,很羡慕坛上不知情的还一直振振有词的人的啦 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 21:48:26
• 你谁啊你知情?咱就是看剧的,什么这那还资本,不知道。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (2 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 22:39:49
• 虽然你说话很难听,倒是很羡慕你这纯真的心态,很希望我也能这么天真无邪地看娱乐圈 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 22:28:42
• 这你就觉得难听了?真的? -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 22:42:33
• 陈和杨结婚又离婚了。我原来不相信刘的传闻,但看到陈和杨亲吻照片,马上信了,杨比刘年龄还小。 -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (55 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 16:51:41
• 是的, 原来以为陈金飞是喜欢刘亦菲的妈妈, 她妈妈也是大美人, 比刘亦菲还漂亮。后来看到杨采钰, 比刘亦菲还小, 他都下 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) (87 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 17:20:02
• 所以陈怎么可能喜欢刘母亲?! -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:56:11
• 杨是2菲,陈曾让她改名“宜菲”,真正的白月光是“芳菲” -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (36 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:16:51
• 我也是看了那个 照片,觉得肯定对刘亦菲有企图,下了本什么也没得着,找了个替。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (18 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 17:59:22
• 他那种人怎么可能什么都捞不着还下本 天仙后来想离开他倒是可能的 所以他才找个了平替才放手 原本也是不信 但看他找了个杨采 -danishcookie- ♀ (174 bytes) (352 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:26:45
• 怎么不可能,就凭小刘的无敌美颜,先下本没捞着所以要报复啊。作为观众八卦,都是根据看的作 -非常时期2021- ♀ (207 bytes) (201 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:39:07
• 而且他作为经纪人,捧红刘他至少赚到了钱,不能说啥都没捞着,而且凭刘的家庭背景刘的那个劲儿,怎么可能找他这个老男人。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (15 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:42:53
• 可是撒谎精的嘴里的爸爸可有六个不同的版本啊!到现在为止没一个出来过,倒是以前上学的老师们都被警告过不许说她啦 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (13 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 21:50:12
• 你咋啥都知道啊 :) -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (3 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 22:55:02
• 因为娱圈的故事比太假了的电视剧好看多了,如何分辨真伪,如何看清资本的操作。其实这坛上的看破但不说的高手多了,比我有修养 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (7 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 10:09:28
• 你这是高看刘亦菲背景了。她父亲稍微有点地位,其实也不算怎么样。她妈文艺团体的,就是长的好看,刘亦菲也是有外貌。她妈离婚后 -valore- ♀ (420 bytes) (142 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 09:37:05
• 刘有啥家世背景?爸妈离婚不联系了姓都改了, 纯粹靠她妈妈活动, 她妈就是靠陈。 -chloezj1992- ♂ (0 bytes) (1 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 13:29:22
• 怎么可能陈没得逞?!刘离开陈一段时间,演技不行,资源不行,现在陈和杨离婚,刘和陈又和好了。 -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (18 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:53:33
• 啊这你都知道。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:59:21
• 哈哈,我在百度帖吧看到的。刘这么多年除了韩国宋承宪没有其它恋爱绯闻,不正常。我选择相信刘和陈的传闻。 -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:13:27
• 后来和好了,陈金飞和刘妈一起注册新公司。陈金飞是玫瑰的制片人,上热搜了。往事又被扒了 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) (26 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:18:33
• 网上猜是不是要公开了? -ConnorMom88- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:24:03
• 陈很招摇的感觉,热搜他买的吧 -Jessy99- ♀ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:52:20
• 女明星们不容易 -Jessy99- ♀ (0 bytes) (23 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:37:02
• 啊,这么狗血,我不相信。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:56:35
• 不知真假,有的是公众号添枝加叶:-) -Jessy99- ♀ (0 bytes) (6 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 20:58:37
• 天仙的前牙真的要整一下 -Bebe54321- ♀ (0 bytes) (14 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 16:30:31
• 她的问题不是牙,是上唇短了,所以世上很难有十全十美的美女。 -CarriePanda- ♀ (0 bytes) (8 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 17:53:29
• 眼睛嘴脸廓都整过 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (13 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:51:08
• 你是怎么知道这些的? -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (4 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:55:09
• 前几天豆瓣有扒,图文并茂,水平很高,现在估计已经给删掉了,毕竟刘用的是陈砾志的团队啊 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (20 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:09:37
• 没听过,不立足作品,带偏观众,靠专业抹黑赚钱,不像好人。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (8 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:15:36
• 他的成就就是专业洗白,作品包括吴亦凡,刘亦菲,--- -------其他不点名了---------没黑料的艺人不用他的 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (14 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:20:17
• 刘应该是天然美女, 毕竟14就长那样 -chloezj1992- ♂ (0 bytes) (10 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:58:31
• 她的著名的韩国整容师有在网上显摆过照片的,以前的整容不像现在对明星这么不可说的 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 21:54:23
• 刘的样子整不出来, 另外她妈妈样子摆在那里。 对原生脸还是整容脸,我看的还是挺准的 -chloezj1992- ♂ (0 bytes) (2 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 14:00:36
• 哈哈哈哈哈哈,那你进来看看? -april113- ♂ (81 bytes) (74 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 17:25:07
• 真是漂亮!弹幕上说‘下辈子也要长这么漂亮’,我也要!!! -小白菜,- ♀ (0 bytes) (7 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 17:30:55
• 劉的門牙排列是敗筆,不能露嘴笑,一笑,容顏明顯打折扣。多少年前她反擊說她倒追朗朗,說對她而言、彈鋼琴和彈棉花是一樣的。神來之筆! -青白丹城- ♀ (0 bytes) (18 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:04:00
• 其实反驳也不用贬低对方, 她这句话说的没素质。 不过感觉她中美来回跑, 文化素质确实不会高 -chloezj1992- ♂ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:40:20
• 我也看了这段,回得过瘾,不过朗朗是不是真这么说咱也不知道。 -非常时期2021- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:47:29
• 刘亦菲十五岁就走后门上了北影, 高中都没毕业。前一段时间, 有人质疑十五岁高中毕业给压下去了。 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) (9 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:22:13
• 这么说掉价,情商低。 -sihuanian- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:33:59
• 确实,不知深浅的感觉,郎朗爸爸说的话也很暴发户没文化的感觉,旗鼓相当,打个平手 -Jessy99- ♀ (0 bytes) (5 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 19:41:38
• 我也觉得 -月色浅浅- ♀ (0 bytes) (7 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 20:13:28
• 她和吴亦凡的公关都是陈砾志,需要他出面都知道是怎么回事,这潭里竟然有好多不知道天仙开始是个黑称 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (72 reads) 06/09/2024 postreply 18:44:36
• 私信april113了,谢谢 -翻篇了- ♀ (0 bytes) (8 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 07:38:33
• 如果我说对吴亦凡和刘亦菲有很多同情肯定会被骂三观不正,但这是我的真实感受,他们不过是资本游戏的工具罢了 -april113- ♂ (0 bytes) (8 reads) 06/10/2024 postreply 10:29:08