最可悲的是到了美国,都没高考这座独木桥了,咱中国人还逼孩子。认识的一个中国人,本人也就硕士,太太本科,都普通雇员而已。女儿在这边很好的一个公立中学上学,成绩第一。某次听这老爹无奈地跟人说,美国教育特失败,学生不懂什么叫“百尺竿头更进一步”,女儿回家做完作业就玩儿,让多学一点点东西就会反弹:该做的我都做了,老师都满意了,要不我能第一?干嘛还学?你让我 no life 咋地?
自我 发表评论于 2014-11-04 20:29:34
又一个虎妈的悲剧?
john777 发表评论于 2014-11-04 20:17:13
中国父母喜欢找孩子的缺点,孩子永远不够好,孩子活的很累。
西方父母喜欢找孩子的优点,孩子永远都够好,孩子活的轻松。
家里老大按中式教育,以成绩为中心,小的时候拔尖,高中时抑郁了。以自我为中心。
家里小的按西式教育,以德为中心,成绩很好,初一已开始社区服务,还每天做家务。
我每天都要夸孩子:(请参考赞美的话语)
Way To Go - Super - You're special - Outstanding - Excellent
Great - Good - Neat - Well done - Remarkable - I'm proud of you
I knew you could do it - Fantastic - Nice work - Looking good
You're on top of it - Now you're flying - You're catching on - Bravo
Beautiful - You're incredible - You're fantastic -Now you've got it
Hurray for you - You're on target - You're on your way - That's incredible
How nice - Hot dog - Good job - How smart - You're beautiful
Dynamite - Good for you - Nothing can stop you now - I like you
You're a winner - Remarkable job - Beautiful work - Spectacular
You're spectacular - You're darling - You're precious - Super star
Great discovery - Magnificent - You're unique - Marvelous
Fantastic job - You figured it out - You're an awesome kid
Bingo - Terrific - You're important - Exceptional performance
Phenomenal - You're sensational - Super work - Super job
You're so creative - Just look at you go - You're a real trooper
You did it because you didn't give up - You are responsible
You are exciting - You learned it right - What an imagination
What a good listener - What a good helper - You are fun
You're growing up - You tried hard - You're a good friend
Beautiful sharing - Outstanding performance - You make me happy
You mean a lot to me - You care - You belong - I trust you
You've got a friend - You make me laugh - You brighten my day
I respect you - You mean the world to me - That's correct
You're a joy - You're a treasure - You're wonderful - A+ job
You're perfect - You made my day - You're a-ok-my buddy
Awesome - That's the best - You've discovered the secret
A big hug - A big kiss - A big smile - I love you!