老大关于孩子跟奶奶亲的回答

来源: cilian 于 05-12-15 14:11:30

儿子一岁多了，婆婆刚来。也帮着看儿子，但总是教他如何亲奶奶。从不叫他叫妈妈。整天爸爸，爷爷的叫，我心里有疙瘩。现在，她一说亲奶奶，儿子会马上扑过去。我说到妈妈这来，儿子会哭，我真不明白。自己一把屎一把尿带大的儿子竟不认我。除了喂奶，儿子跟我的关系看起来不如这个刚来的奶奶好，我很痛苦。奶奶想着法要让我断奶，也做饭，但总是儿子先吃，要知道我喂奶的人饿得快，但碍于面子只好喂完儿子在自己吃，往往饭菜已凉，肚子饿过了，食之无味了。头脑混乱中写下，我是不是鸡蛋里头挑骨头，随便扔砖吧。

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Children do not lie
来源: crazydog 于 05-12-15 16:40:31

They will show honestly how they feel. If he is closer to a grandmother who has only been here for a short period of time than you, then you as a mother need to review how you interacts with your son!

Are you spending enough time with him every day? Have you been paying attention to his emotional and physical needs? Usually it is very difficult to distant a child from the mom no matter how sweet the other party is.

My mother-in-law also tried to teach my 18-month-old to call and kiss "nai-nai" non-stop. But my daughter would not stay with her for more than 10 min before she started looking for me. It is much more fun to play with mother than to play with grandma, right? Grandma has no energy and only asks her to sit and be obedient, and do not quite understand what she needs, while mother allows her to climb everywhere and play like crazy and gives her mental security.

Your son is yours! The only way that he is not is if you do not care. Grandma is no competition.

以下中文翻译由newmommy1106提供.

孩子们会毫不掩饰地表露他们的感受。如果奶奶才住了那么短的一段时间，你的儿子却已经跟她更亲，那么你作为妈妈应该反省自己和儿子之间的互动：

你是否每天花足够的时间和儿子在一起？你是否注意到他的情感和身体的需要？别人做得再好，通常也很难把孩子的心从妈妈身上抢走。

我的婆婆也曾经试图不停地教我的女儿叫奶奶和亲奶奶，但女儿和她在一起不过十分钟就会开始找我。跟妈妈玩比跟奶奶玩可有趣多了。奶奶精力不继，只能让她坐着和听话，并且不太了解她需要什么，而妈妈则允许她到处爬，疯玩，而且给她安全感。

儿子是你的！只有你不在乎时他才可能被夺走。奶奶争不过你的。