Well, if you have not cried for a long time and have forgot how good it feels to allow your tears run, then go see this movie, 'PS, I love you'.
Or, if you feel like crying but struggle to find a good excuse for it, then go as well, go see 'PS, I love you'.
It is good to feel the tenderness of my heart after being exposed to other people's love and sorrow. That's the beauty of a good movie, taking you to experience something you might have never experienced, and may never will.
Losing someone you have been deeply in love with is not the worst thing that can happen to people's life, and the worst way to miss someone is not really to be sitting right beside him knowing you can‘t have him, no, this is not true. The worst thing is that you terribly miss someone but don't even know who he is. You do not have a grave to visit, you do not have his photos to look at, you do not have beautiful memories that you have shared with him, you also don't have his pillow to hold during the many long lonely nights to pretend that he is still there, with you...
If you have met this someone that you truely love, who has cracked the nutshell of your heart and made it all warm and tender, then be grateful even if you have only had him for a few countable days. Remember, time you get to spend with the person you truely love is never going to be enough. So be grateful, as not everyone will encounter their true love like you did in this short life, some never will because they are incapable of true love, and the others never will because they have picked the wrong person to spend life with along the way.
So,
Be grateful if you have lost someone you love because you still have him in your heart, and will so, for the rest of your life.
Be grateful if you have met someone you love whom you can never have, because you now know whom to miss.
But also remember that God has made more varieties of bodies than souls, so be faithful that you will find him again, in this world, although it is likely that he will look very different when you find him, so it will be a hard job recognising him. Be prepared for that.
I have recently heard this beautiful peom which I want to share with those people who have lost their loved ones.
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Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there I do not sleep.
I am in a thousand winds that blow
I am the softly falling snow.
I am the gentle showers of rain,
I am the fields of ripening grain.
I am in the morning hush,
I am in the graceful rush
Of beautiful birds in circling flight,
I am the starshine of the night.
I am in the flowers that bloom,
I am in a quiet room.
I am the birds that sing
I am in each gentle thing.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there. I did not die.
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It is always easier staying in grave sorrow than trying to pull oneself together again. Just like it is always easier being passive than taking the initiatives.
Mourn your loss as much as you want, but still, life goes on. The precious someone you have lost wouldn't want to see you being devastated for the rest of your life for him, and if he would, he had never truely loved you.
I was once told that a woman who lives for love will eventually lose it, but for those who live for a life, they will eventually find the love that has been missing from their lives. And when he comes, he will probably look into your eyes, smile at you and say: “Hello, You!"
