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Are you a candidate for commitment? Here, the ways your guy tries to find out for sure if you're girlfriend material.
You've been dating some dude long enough to know that you're on the brink of bona fide girlfriend status. So why the hell hasn't he slapped the official label on the relationship yet? Simple. Before he gives you the green light to stash a box of tampons at his place, he's judging whether you're worthy by...
Mentioning an Ex
You can bet a former flame will come up at some point. When she does, play it cool or you could be history. Take it from Miguel,* 25: "When I revealed that an old girlfriend e-mailed me, Sara accused me of still having feelings for her and demanded that I sever ties," he says. "Seeing that side of Sara made me rule out a future together." The A-plus reaction: Get a tad green-eyed, but lay off the accusations and ultimatums, which make you seem insecure.
Coming Home Drunk
After a bender with the boys, your man rolls home blitzed. You (a) give him the third degree and point him toward the couch or (b) stuff him with bread, water, and two ibuprofen before tucking him into bed. If you answered b, your man is one lucky dog, and he knows it. "After my best friend's bachelor party, I showed up on my girl's doorstep plastered," says Willy, 26. "Anne totally took care of me. The fact that she was so cool reassured me that committing to her wouldn't mean the end of my independence." Bottom line: Your guy wants permission to be a guy every once in a while. Give it to him and he's yours.
Suggesting Kinky Sex
He's not really banking on the fact that you'd don a leather catsuit and walk on his back in stilettos. But he is angling to see if you're game for some experimentation. Arthur, 31, explains: "I've been in relationships where the sex plateaus once you become a couple," he says. "So before I settle down, I test the waters. I may buy the girl crazy lingerie or say I'd like to be tied up just to see how she reacts. I'm not looking to marry a porn star, but I need The One to be into exploring."
Planning a No-Frills Adventure
He wants to see if you're high-maintenance or if you can hang tough when the going gets rough. Think camping trips, fast food, greasy hair, no makeup....Or in the case of Ed, 29, a stay at a seedy motel. "Jackie and I drove to the mountains for a weekend getaway," he says. "Our luck: All of the hotels were booked with the exception of a total dive. But Jackie was a trouper. We stayed up all night talking. If she had acted like a diva, it would've been a deal breaker.
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