女人的标准不是假定的那么简单

It seems so easy to define what a ‘good smart woman’ is, especially regarding sexual aspect. But ask yourself, are you always one? Are your sisters and friends? Why and why not?

People know right from wrong and it is easier said than done. Some women confuse themselves in different circumstances and before different people. Some goes further and can’t control their animal but natural urge and let lust take the lead. They may know all the right things to do but can’t help becoming a fool because of the human weaknesses. Hence, most women seldom reveal their own evil or lusty or stupid sides during the long course of their lives, the course of their growth to become mature and wise.

If every woman is a good woman, a role model, the world may become very dull and can be controlled by machine, by computer system. Then where can the 'good' be found by comparison? Thank God for creating different creatures!

We have to admit the world is colorful and women are different. Some women can be satisfied with one man and one man only for her entire life, some women can’t. Some needs men’s hearts, some just needs their bodies. That’s also why some women can be loyal even if the husbands are out of track while some women will steal even if there is nothing wrong with their partners. Those who can maintain everything right are priceless and worth more than gold. Unfortunately, reality is the “good ones” are not necessarily lucky and happy and “bad ones’ are not definitely miserable ones either.

Important thing is to know what you need and want and correct the mistakes next time. If you want a relationship, don’t let casual sex get in the way. If you need some adventure, don’t need to claim you are so conservation, good, traditional, committed…whatever woman, and go for it. In some sense, that is much better to have an affair after you are verbally or legally committed.

So why ask different type of women to do the same thing? Why not let their own nature run the course first? People will learn, including adults, from others’ advice (eg. Parents, teacher, friends..) and their own experiences. Some experiences are successes that benefit people, and some are failures that can also benefit people.



PS: I can't help but comment about Timeisticking's case. Here is to Timeisticking:

You know all the things you were supposed to do and therefore the long email but then things changed. You talked and you know what went wrong. So why take down your profile? It is not the internet or profile's fault. Having strong self-esteem and good control of the situation is the key.

There may be nothing wrong with the sex, but just dangerous not to be protected. Now that you learned and I doubt you would do the same again.

For future reference, confirm with yourself whether you plan for sex or not before you go, and control, control, control your own urge or instinct but stick to the plan. Maybe, you are not ready for love. You are still more physical. Otherwise that wouldn't have happened, and otherwise, you wouldn't have ignored your "loved" one just because he is currently unemployed.

So why force yourself? If you suppress the desire inside you, which is probably what you really need for now, haha, no matter who you meet next time, sex might still be the first thing to come cross your mind and take you over.

If you can't resist the temptation, then get it now :-) Then when you ARE ready for your Mr Right, you won't make the same mistakes again.

Attention: men, Chinese or Americans, will not marry a woman who has sex with them on the first few dates. Check online data, more than 90% accurate. No one wants a slut as wife. Simple as that.