Today is the twenty-third day for the life of love.
My man went to his work, I am in Cambridge public library, with something in my mind.
“Should always clean dishes after meals.” my man said while he was zipping his coat.
“No, It is really painful if I wash them immediately after meals. I do not like to do that and I do not have the habit of doing that.” I talked back without thinking.
“No, Listen, we should wash them. It is not healthy, and how you can bear it?” my man stopped wearing his hat and dragged me to close to him instead. Looking at me.
“Ok, please wash them if you really cannot bear them. I am completely fine with that.” I opened the door, “And be ready to go to the library.”
“Wenwen, wenwen?” he called me after me. I just kept walking without looking back. He ran after me and said: “No, we should clean them.”
“Ok, go ahead, please clean them.” I still kept walking.
“I tell you, it will take ten minutes to finish. I will feel painful if I wash them. I feel not painful if I wash them when I need them during the next time I cook. So, the same time, one is painful, one is not, why would I choose the painful one. No! No! I will not wash them!” I continued saying while he followed me.
“No, they should be cleaned.” He kept saying that.
“Oh, you can not bear that, you are painful.” I suddenly realized that and said. “Ok, I do not have the habit to wash dishes after meal. Please train me to have this habit if you want and if you can. Give you big hint, forming a habit only needs 21 days, so we do that together for 21 days, I maybe I will have the habit, maybe not. I am too old to form a habit easily.” I kept saying.
“Ok.” he said, but his voice was not annoyed any more.
Little things between us came out.
He does not like wash his hand before cooking, he does not wash food before he cooks them, he does not comb his hair everyday, he does not... For him, I do not wash dishes after meals, I do not throw toilet paper into toilet, I do not keep clean our room...
So what shall I do?
“Ok. It is fine. I will clean dishes after our meals. It is really good for me to do some exercise after meals, after all, it is not healthy to stay still immediately after eating. So I will clean dishes after meals immediately.
Ok. It is fine. It is just physical dirty if he does not wash his hand or food before his cook, which is better than there is some chemicals in our meals. Ignoring it, if not, I will help him wash when he is cooking.
Ok. It is fine. I will comb your hair before we give each other goodbye kisses.
Ok. It is fine...”
It is not easy in The Life of Love, but we will learn from each other and grow with love.
