导言
本文作者当年哭着进了哥伦比亚大学。她是个很害羞,不爱说话的女孩。她用自己的亲身经历告诉大一新生怎样交友。
这里还有她在哥大第一年的亲身体会。她讲到了入学前的恐慌,哥大第一年的课程设置,世界顶尖极的教授们,来自世界各地的同学们,丰富多彩的校园生活……
宿舍里有许多活动新生通常可以参加。我的建议是:走出去!
我自己一直是一个害羞内向的人,但我时时提醒自己:要走出自己的舒适区。这一点帮助我成长了,现在我不再害怕和陌生人交谈了。
大学一年级的每个人都是新人,没有谁认识谁,所以请尽量去和别人交谈。你可以做如下这几点:
1. 到宿舍的休息室,加入坐在那里的人们的谈话。
2. 上课前与同学聊天,并邀请他们在课后一起午餐或晚餐。
3. 加入很多俱乐部。试试那些俱乐部,就像你在试穿新衣服一样。
4. 参加介绍会,如何你认为自己可能不喜欢,那就不要勉强自己。
5. 与你认为很酷的人交换号码,然后邀请他们与你一起参加有趣的活动。
大学里充满了有趣的活动,比如有趣的客座讲座,活动交易会,期末考试时,还会有治疗犬来到。这些活动本身就是很有趣的事,但如果和这些人一起做,就会帮你更好地了解他们。
Makingfriends/Breaking ice:
Meeting people incollege is not too hard, but you have to be open to exploring and making new connections in order to make real friends. I made new friends in various settings: dorms, classes, clubs, summer internships.
There are often many events available for freshmen to attend in their dorms.
My recommendation is: go!
I'm a shy and introverted person, but I put myself out of my comfort zone all the time, and this helped me to grow into the person that I am today.
Every freshmen in college is new there, no one knows anyone else, so just go ahead and talk to someone.
1. Go to your dorm's lounge and join the conversation that people sitting there are having.
2. Chat with your classmates before class, and invite them to lunch or dinner after class.
3. Join lots of clubs. Try on clubs like you're trying on new clothes.
4. Go to the intro meetings, but don't feel obligated to go back if you don't think you'll like it.
5. Exchange numbers with people you think are cool and then invite them to go to fun events with you.
College is full of fun events, from interesting guest lectures, to activity fairs, to therapy dog sessions during finals. These are all interesting ontheir own, but an even better way to get to know people is to do stuff with them.
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