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Matthew BarsingMatthew Barsing• 3rd+• 3rd+Chief Commercial Officer @ EPS Consultants | Award-Winning Staffing & Recruitment Specialist | Top 100 Business Leaders in Malaysia to follow on LinkedIn (2023)Chief Commercial Officer @ EPS Consultants | Award-Winning Staffing & Recruitment Specialist | Top 100 Business Leaders in Malaysia to follow on LinkedIn (2023)

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BRUTAL these words from actor Anthony Hopkins:

Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing.

Stop having difficult conversations with people who don't want to change.
Stop showing up for people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it's an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to that place. It doesn't mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren't ready to be with you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.

Truth is you ain't for everybody and everybody ain't for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people you have friendship with or mutual love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them you will find at your level of interest and commitment. Maybe if you stop showing up, they won't look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends.
Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing sustaining it was the energy you only gave to keep it. That's not love, that's attachment.
It's giving a chance to those who don't deserve it!

You deserve so much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. The people and things you give your time and energy to, will define your existence. When you realize this you start to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities or spaces that don't suit you and shouldn't be near you.

You will start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.

Make your life a safe haven, where only people "compatible" with you are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone.
You are not responsible for convincing them to do better.
It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life!

You deserve real friendships, true commitments and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Decision to distance yourself from toxic people, will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve.

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Matthew Barsing

Chief Commercial Officer @ EPS Consultants | Award-Winning Staffing & Recruitment Specialist | Top 100 Business Leaders in Malaysia to follow on LinkedIn (2023)

BRUTAL Wisdom from Anthony Hopkins: Letting Go for Your Well-being

In a recent post, actor Anthony Hopkins shared powerful advice:

"Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing."

Hopkins emphasizes the significance of not investing time and energy into relationships with those who don't reciprocate. He advocates for stepping back from futile efforts and redirecting that energy toward a life filled with joy and genuine connections.

Key Takeaways:

Prioritize Self-Care: Protect your time and energy as they define your existence. Avoid spending time in spaces that don't align with your well-being.

Recognize Your Worth: Understand that not everyone will appreciate you, and that's okay. Focus on building connections with those who share mutual love and commitment.

Letting Go is Liberating: Distance yourself from toxic relationships. It's not your responsibility to save or convince others. Prioritize your happiness, esteem, and protection.

The decision to distance yourself from toxic people is an investment in the love, esteem, and happiness you truly deserve.

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rebuttal against your notes by spiking up the boundary issue - to know when to pull off or pull out.
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Certainly, let's address the boundary issue by spiking up the discussion on when to pull off or pull out. It's essential to consider the nuances involved in determining the right time to let go. Here's a counterpoint:

Navigating Boundaries: A Counter Perspective

While the advice from Anthony Hopkins promotes letting go of relationships that seem unreciprocated, it's crucial to delve deeper into the concept of boundaries. Boundaries are not only about cutting off relationships but also about understanding when and how to navigate them effectively.

Understanding Nuances:

Communication is Key: Instead of abruptly letting go, open communication can be a powerful tool. Expressing your needs and expectations allows for mutual understanding, fostering healthier relationships.

Growth Through Challenges: Difficult conversations and challenges within relationships can lead to personal and collective growth. It's not always about immediately pulling off; sometimes, facing adversity together can strengthen bonds.

Assessing Compatibility: Instead of categorizing people as either toxic or compatible, consider that relationships may have phases. It's essential to reassess compatibility periodically and adjust expectations accordingly.

The Art of Pulling Off:

Self-Reflection: Before deciding to pull off, engage in self-reflection. Evaluate your own contributions to the relationship and consider if changes can be made on both sides.

Graceful Exit: If it becomes evident that a relationship is detrimental, a gradual and respectful exit might be more beneficial than a sudden break. This approach allows for closure and preserves dignity.

Learning Opportunity: Difficult relationships can offer valuable insights. It's essential to discern between temporary challenges and persistent toxicity, and recognize when there's an opportunity for growth.

In essence, the decision to pull off or pull out should be nuanced and contextual. It involves thoughtful consideration of the specific dynamics at play, with a focus on communication, personal growth, and mutual understanding.

Feel free to adjust or expand on this counterpoint as needed. The goal is to present a balanced perspective on the issue of boundaries and when to navigate them in relationships.