老三届的辛酸故事系列 1

他们曾经是不幸的一代 他们又是幸运的一代 有多少人抓住了幸运的机会
让我们一起来回顾把

下面讲述一个老三届的中国人的命运

Everyone has a life.  Life could be short or long.  Life could be happy or sad.
Life could be blessed or ruined.  Life could be lucky or miserable
How do you treat your life?  What do you prepare for your life?

姓名 Wei-Ping
享年 50岁 (April 22, 1955 --- September 1 2005)
born in April 22, 1955 as a girl in mainland China
not go through high school education in the chaos of the Cultural Revolution
Tsinghua University in 1978  七八级入清华大学 数学科
1982年大学应届毕业后 考入美研究生院 joined the Ph.D. program in Courant Institute at NYU
married with a Chinese student studied abroad from China in 1984
Became a mom to give birth to a daughter Ellen in 1986  Happy time
in 1986, the same year that Wei-Ping obtained her Ph.D. in mathematics
worked two years at UCSD, UT-Austin and Tulane University----bad sign, job unstable
moved to Chapel Hill with her Chinese husband in 1988---appear lost in career
1989年 美国绿卡获得 American dream come true---a little reward for a big blood shed 6.4
worked at UNC Math Dept as a visiting assistant professor for two years----lucky enough
give second birth to a son in 1991---second achievement
Become a full-time mother 1991 ---- 1996 ---- five years employment came to end after graduation
Worked as software consultant in IBM, Smith-Breeden and Nortel during the period of 1997-2001 --- lost in dark
began to develop mental illness in 2000 due to work-related depression --- lost support
first suicidal attempt in 2001 to end career and servere injured
From 2001 to 2003, she had 13 surgeries at Duke university Hospital
September 1, 2005 Wei-Ping finally took her own life

问题    Who should be blamed

Courant Institute at NYU

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the following is Original Marterial from Internet but lost link
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Memory letter from her Chinese husband

Thank you all for coming to Wei-Ping's memorial service. As someone closest to Wei-Ping, I feel responsible for giving you a brief introduction to Wei-Ping's life. Wei-Ping was born in April 22, 1955 in an ordinary family in China. She did not go through high school education in the chaos of the Cultural Revolution, but was admitted to Tsinghua University in 1978 with math major right after the normal education system resumed. As a top student in her class when she graduated from Tsinghua University in 1982, she joined the Ph.D. program in Courant Institute at NYU. We got married in 1984 and had our daughter Ellen in 1986, the same year that Wei-Ping obtained her Ph.D. in mathematics. Having worked two years at UCSD, UT-Austin and Tulane University, she moved to Chapel Hill with me and Ellen in 1988 when I took my tenure-track position in the Statistics Department at UNC. Wei-Ping worked at UNC Math Dept as a visiting assistant professor for a couple of years, then had our son Kevin in 1991 and became a full-time mother. After teaching herself various skills in software engineering, she found her second career in computer industry and worked in IBM, Smith-Breeden and Nortel during the period of 1997-2001. Unfortunately, she began to develop some mental illness in 2000, which led to her first suicidal attempt in 2001. She survived but was severely injured. The next few years following this incidence saw Wei-Ping's long battle with both her physical and mental problems. From 2001 to 2003, she had 13 surgeries at Duke Hospital and continued to take different medications for her depression and other related problems. In spite of the miraculous healing of her physical wounds and the tentative recovery of her mental illness, her serious depression took another turn from bad to worse. On September 1 2005, Wei-Ping finally took her own life. How could she do something like that to herself and her family? That is the question everyone asks. It is my view that we saw two different sides of Wei-Ping: one as a loving mother and wife, a friend with great passion and beautiful smiles, another as a patient in despair with tremendous pains. No justice is served to see the dark side won. Nevertheless, it is totally unfair to interpret her action simply as cold-blooded. We have to realize that what she has been through in the last few years of her life is truly beyond the imagination of any healthy human being. Dear Wei-Ping, you left our kids and me. I wish I could turn the clock backwards. Had you seen that so many people here today want to know you, you would have changed your mind. I know that is my wishful thinking, but I cannot help it. So many scenes like movie were replayed over and over in my mind these days. I can never forget that young, beautiful, and incredibly smart girl I met in my college class, the only woman I have been with for more than 21 years under the special name ``husband and wife''. Whenever I saw the pictures we took, or touched the cooking ware you used, or heard your voice messages in our answering machine, it brought me immediately back to everything we have shared for so long. Dear Wei-Ping, although you are gone, you cannot really get rid of our kids and me. We are doomed to belong to each other. Let's forget the tragic time we spent together and only keep the good time in our memory. Just take one more look at our treasure, Ellen and Kevin, you will realize what great job you have done in raising them. I know you are proud of them. I know at this moment, you are nodding while you are lying down peacefully in Heaven. May the peace be with you forever!

xxxxxx (Monday, 9/5/2005)