最近在读Emotional Intelligence （by Daniel Coleman）。是career development 的功课。
Much evidence testifies that people who are emotionally adept – who know and manage their own feelings well, and who read and deal effectively with other people’s feelings – are at an advantage in any domain of life, whether romance and intimate relationships or picking up the unspoken rules that govern success in organizational politics. People with well-developed emotional skills are also more likely to be content and effective in their lives, mastering the habits of mind that foster their own productivity; people who can not marshal some control over their emotional life fight inner battles that sabotage their ability for focused work and clear thought.
说谓Effectively deal with other people’s feeling, 大概是见人说人话，见鬼说鬼话的意思吧。
YW大概是有这种技术，可惜他在家似乎不用这个技术。说话从不注意我的感受。
并不见得会“content with life”. 当面不说，背后骂娘。
总觉得薛宝钗式的人最合适在公司里混。八面玲珑，左右逢源。但是这些词在中文里都含有贬义？至多中性。当你评价一个人圆滑，会来事，至少不是褒义。
可如今在美国公司混 （可能全世界都一样），就得学会这一套。
