One day last month my son said to me: "Mom, I only see you a couple hours a day but you seem complaining a lot lately about house were not clean or things were not done. Can we just say something that sound positive?"
My body felt heavy at that moment. He was right. I developed a habit of expressing dissatisfaction. There will always be things to complain about, but there are people who are so much worse off than we are.
When I focus on dissatisfaction or resentment, or have a grievance, it is unproductive and magnifies the situation. Eudora Welty, the beloved American writer once wrote: “The excursion is the same when you go looking for your sorrow as when you go looking for your joy.”
We’ll never have a perfect life, but complaining causes anxiety, stress, and unhappiness thereby contaminating our internal harmony, sending the wrong signal to our brain and all our cells. We can accept what we cannot change. We can choose to keep our mind clear, moving our thoughts in the direction of how we can make things better.
I can choose to cut down on my complaining, I can do this internally, by not vocalizing a negative thought. Beside no one really wants to hear our litany of complains. I can focus my attention on all that is good, on abundance not loss. If it rains, be glad that trees grow better. If the house is disorganized, be cheerful that you are not live alone. Be grateful for all the good in your life.
