Dear Sister, I want to tell you something from the bottom of my heart:
You must find something beyond love, something that will support your feet on this earth. You must find a way to support yourself—it is not too late to consider that now. I never considered diplomas to be most important. Most geniuses did not graduate from top schools, yet without formal schooling, sometimes it would be hard for you to handle normal things.
You must gradually transform those fleeting thoughts into a clear way of thinking through simple words of expression. Pompousness and gaudiness will never last. You should know, it is not enough to make your words pleasurable to read; what is more important is its content, thought, realm, soul, spirit and wisdom. Do not read too much written by those writers who have views similar to yours. Don’t be trivial; don’t moan and groan without being ill. Don't give pen to all your thoughts. Don’t be sentimental and emotional for petty things.
My dear sister, you should trust warmth, benevolence, confidence, and respect – these ancient words. I don’t want you to be decadent, nihilistic, confused, self-inflicted nor to hurt others.
I do not want you to mess up your own life. Constrain your own feelings. Not all people can be your buddies. To taste real life is quite another story. It doesn’t mean that you can be decadent and undisciplined. Do not pursue these things for the sake of "coolness" or something of the sort. They are only the excuses of those who have nothing to do other than to indulge themselves. The true coolness is inside your heart. You should have a very big and strong heart, with unyielding belief that will never wane with the time. Don’t say that you love this world because you are inside an ivory tower. You should continue to say these words after you see the dark, the filthy, and the ugly in the world.
Sister, learn to love and live. Youth is short, but do not complain of its shortness. Sometimes you should pause and rest, but do not squat down and look around. When you take a road, please do not look back.
Often ask yourself: what are you doing?
When you feel sad and wronged, you should cry out loudly. When you finish crying, go wash and pat your face, then put a smile on it. Do not rub your eyes, or you will have swollen eyes the next day.
Set great goals and high expectations for yourself.
Please remember you should often look at the sky. Also remember to look at the road under your feet from time to time.
At any time, when you are asked by anyone, how many love experiences you have, the answer is twice.
One time, he loved me and I did not love him.
The other time, I love him, but he did not love me.
The good love is always the next time.
Never give the same man two opportunities to hurt you. Never trust his vows on the bed.
Don’t overprice virginity, but retain chastity.
Don’t be ashamed of your desires. Enjoy your life, but never tolerate insults and indolence from men.
Believe me, sister, there are plenty of men, more than the three-legged frogs. Never easily say out the word "love".
Trust your own intuition.
Never bother with other men, unless you really love him and that he deserves your love.
Never bother with a man who is looking for someone who is similar to his former girlfriend, his mother or his sisters.
Never bother with a loafer, an artistic youth or a middle-aged man. Do not bother a man who is too pure for the love.
Don’t get together with seemingly careless guys. Degrading yourself is not true love.
Never be moved when a man demean himself in order to please you. You should know if he burns himself with cigarette butts by now, he will do the same thing to you in the future.
Observe the man’s friends, especially how they treat ladies.
Do not believe in a man who won’t introduce you to his friends.
When a man can only call you "Baby", you should persist in asking him to call you by your name.
When a man comes to you no more, do not go after him. Do not believe in anyone who employ strategic maneuvers in love.
When you have to separate with the man, do not use ugly words. Learn a lesson from it but do not feel regret. Regret is futile.
Never commit third-class petty things like tearing pictures, burning letters, destroy journals that often appear in soap operas.
Trust in love; believe that there is a good man out there, unmarried and looking for you in the sea of people. Don’t say that "no man under the sun is good," from which other people might think you are too experienced in love.
Listen to me: never be a woman who in the middle of night takes her luggage from one boyfriend’s home and moves to another one.
Love materials properly. You should know non-material stuff is more important. The more beautiful thing is you yourself: you are better than expensive watches, name brands and fashion stuff.
Never look down upon working people, never be ashamed of working. The earth is not dirty at all, and the smell of sweat is not too bad. Always respect those people whose living conditions are below you. This way is the way to respect you own self. Always be considerate and compassionate with those people who live in the bottom of the society because our relatives are among them.
We are not enervated.
Don’t look down upon one penny. Go try to make it.
When you are hurt by your friends, do not doubt friendship, but beware of the people who may betray you.
Always forgive, but never forget.
Keep you your own pure of heart from childhood, and be chivalrous to your friends.
Be happy, open-minded, firm but warm. This has nothing to do with your character.
I worry you are too meek. Sometimes, you should be strong. When you are bullied, you should stand up and fight back.
But you should never bear grudges, no matter what petty things people might say.
Pity and compassion will make you a noble lady.
Please excuse this world and yourself. Tell yourself that you deserve the best in the world.