from： http://www.lightshouse.org/things-toxic-parents-do.html#axzz2YEZx19FG
Abandoning
Addictive Behaviors (most common in toxic parents with BPD or NPD traits)
Betraying
Blackmailing
Blaming
Breaking Trust
Bribery
Competing (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits)
Controlling
Criticizing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or BPD traits)
Cruelty (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits)
Demanding (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits)
Denying
Devaluing
Dictating (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits)
Disappointing
Disapproval (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits)
Disowning
Dysfunction
Egotism (most common in toxic parents with NPD or AsPD traits)
Emotional abuse
Engulfing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or BPD traits)
Envying (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits)
Favoritism
Forcing
Gaslighting (Denying something happened.)
Guilt Trips
Holds grudges
Hoovering
Humiliating
Ignoring
Infantilizing (most common in toxic parents with NPD or OCPD traits)
Insults
Invalidating
Labeling
Lying
Manipulating
Martyrdom (most common in toxic parents with HPD or NPD traits)
Minimizing (most common in toxic parents with AsPD or NPD traits)
Name-calling
Narcissism
Needling
Negativity
Neglecting
Nerve-wracking
Not empathizing
Objectifying
Oppression
Overreacting
Parentifying
Passive-Aggression
Physical Abuse (most common in toxic parents with AsPD or BPD traits)
Playing children off one another
Playing Victim
Polarizing
Power Trips
Prejudices (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits)
Pressuring
Pretending
Projection
Put-downs
Rage
Refusing Responsibility
Religious Abuse (most common in toxic parents with NPD traits)
Retaliating
Rigidity
Role playing
Sarcasm
Scapegoating
Scaring
Secrets
Severe punishment
Sexual Abuse
Smear Campaigns
Sneakiness (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits)
Substance abuse
Temper Tantrums
Threatening
Threatening suicide (most common in toxic parents with BPD traits)
Triangulation
Toxic Shaming
Tricking (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits)
Ultimatums
Undermining
Using (most common in toxic parents with AsPD traits)
Verbally Abusing
Vindictiveness
Wheedling (most common in toxic parents with BPD or NPD traits)
Withholding
Yelling
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