Accept your emotions. Don't deny what you feel. Your true feelings are bio-chemical reactions to your experience. They are neither right or wrong. They are gifts and learning devices for self-discovery and self-awareness. Living in denial of true feelings is depressing where you remain a prisoner to the invisible chains that binds you in utter darkness of your own mind.
Strong feelings like guilt, anger, resentment, fear and hatred might be scary. You might be afraid to think of allowing your feelings to get the better of you. You might be on guard all the time. If you disallow yourself to express its own nature, you will get lost and you will never be able to find the meaning of life or geniune happiness. At the best , you can be a successful actor to live your life as an entertainment to others. You may earn good money, have fame and honor but you will not have peace with your true self. You will fear death and failure. You will regret at the deathbed. You will be an attractive counterfeit but no chance to be a masterpiece.
Deal with it by following your inner small and still voice:
- allow yourself to feel how those feelings scare you
- allow yourself to feel how those feelings that are scaring you
- analyze the root cause of the neative feelings
- suppress true feelings will kill you and get you lost. So explore any options available for dealing with the root cause
- if you find ways to deal with those emotions, choose the best option available. choose with self-love and self-care not on impulse of ego. but don't make compromises which will affect your peace
- if there are no options available to deal with the meotions that are bothering you, deal with it by accepting what happened and letting it go. Life never go downhill if you accept what really happens here and now. Things only get worse when you are mad at what has happened.
- make a consicous decision to
- never put the interest of others ahead of yours
- never compromise on your peace
- act with love for you and others
- let your yes be yes and no be no
You have learnt lessons which will come in handy in the future. Things may not make sense now. Be assured that things happen for a reason and it will always end well if you don't lose hope. If you choose freedom, truth, beauty, life, trust, creativity, growth, patience, courage, geniune goodwill, wisdom, knowledge and continuous improvement.
