每隔一阵,我都去学校跟给孩子们送外卖午餐。 两个小家伙总是飞奔着扑上来跟老妈抱抱,弟弟还不害羞地公然跟妈妈亲亲。 我总在心底感叹,“不知道这样的好时光还能持续多久?” 据说上了middle school,没有哪个小孩还让爸妈来学校陪着吃饭的。 邻居Virginia一早告诉我,“我清清楚楚记得大儿子念五年级时,我去给他一个抱抱,居然被他推开,到现在还心痛哪!”
短短半个小时的午餐相聚,是温馨的母子时光,也是老妈借机spy,oh no,认识他们的朋友、观察他们和其他小朋友互动的好机会。 :-)
贝贝从kinder就在这家学校上学,我常来学校帮忙,也常给她安排play date、sleep-over 等等,再加上大家都是住在同一个社区的邻居,不夸张的说,全年级的女生我都认识,真是看着她们长大的。 每次在饭厅门口等她,孩子们排队走过来,好多好甜蜜的小女生都上来跟我抱抱。 看她们如雀鸟般叽叽喳喳、活泼欢快的模样,有些已经快跟我一样高了,每一个都那么娇俏可爱,那么天真灵动。
贝贝这个年级男多女少,一个班才六个女生。 开学不久我就发现,六个女生里五个都很要好,午餐总是坐在一起,说说笑笑,其乐融融;但是新来的一个女孩子Cecilia一个人坐的远远的,落单,在recess也是一个人在角落看着地上发呆,蛮孤单的。
回家后我问贝贝,“Cecilia都没朋友吗?” 贝贝说,“我们都有去跟她说话啊,可是她只是瞪着我,也不回答。”“也许她只是不知道怎么回应,下次再试试。” 不久后的一天放学回到家,她颇为得意地告诉我,她给Cecilia写了一个字条:我们做朋友好吗? Recess要不要跟我们一起玩? 结果不善言语的Cecilia很快就回了她,满纸的谢意情真意切,很让人感动;Recess也果真加入,和大家一起玩得还蛮开心的。 我蛮佩服贝贝的耐心和诚意;惭愧,想起自己在她这个年纪哪有这等成熟和爱心? 贝贝还告诉我,同学Lily也常常主动地去找Cecilia玩。 Lily悄悄地说,其实是被她妈推的。 我听了忍不住笑,Lily的妈妈是邻居里有名的热心人,她差不多天天跑学校,准是看见了Cecilia的落单,才叫女儿特别友爱她。
这学期贝贝的老师指导全班写blog,第一篇是介绍自己,第二篇是写一个"How to"。 班上一大堆孩子写"How to make a peanut butter jelly sandwich",哈哈哈。 但是贝贝写的居然是" How to Make a New Friend":
Have you ever been the loneliest lone, lonely, loner? I haven't, but I know people who have. If you see someone hiding in a tiny nook, go make a new friend!
I’m going to go through the steps, one by one, on how to make a new friend. A friend could be very important to your life. I would be sad and might not want to go to school if I didn’t have friends. You need to go to school to get an education, but having friends is just as important as going to school.
To make a new friend, you’ll need to find a person that has not yet been your friend, a friendly smile glued to your face :), and a warm heart that’s ready to make a new friend.
To start, walk up to your about-to-be-friend and say “Hi! What’s your name?” They’ll answer a bit shyly so you’ll have to make sure that your warm heart is patient.
Next, try to find something you have in common to talk about. You’ll find something you love about them, such as kindness, jolliness, or generosity. Once you start talking, you’ll find you have a new friend in no time.
Those are all of the steps to how to make a new friend. I hope you enjoy your new friend!
I love her so much. She's the light of my life.