两个女儿都是我的心肝宝贝。大女儿从小独立特行，小女儿温顺体贴。
心底里总是对大女儿觉得亏欠。在她3岁多的时候来到加拿大,因为大人忙于工作学习，也因为是第1个小孩，没有教养孩子的经验，更是因为当时的经济状况，在她成长过程中，很多方面没关照好。她对于外型，整洁很不在意。便写了这封信希望能够帮助她。
Think of the time when I was your age at university, I was a scholar for the first year. And then I decided not to learn from the class, so I learned how to knit, and how to skate outside the class. I had my first romance with a handsome young man, and ended in making myself a fool due to my controlling character. I barely passed all my courses, and then entered the real world without properly equipped. I was lucky, no matter how I did in university, I was arranged for a job according to the system at that time. If I could redo it, I think I want to read more, explore all the clubs, attend those elective social and philosophy classes, be alone and think of who I am and what I want to do. But life is a one way journey, no one can redo it. To see your footprints, how I am proud of you, my darling .You are much mature and have done so much more than I did. Comparing with your own generation, you are way ahead of most of them. You are exploring the world on your own money; you already had working experiences with the world great companies while most of your friends are still living under the protection of their parents. It seems to me, nothing you can not do. The road ahead of you stretches itself. Your hardworking is rewarding. Love you, my dearest friend.
I am writing to you, and to myself as well. In the new year of 2019, self-discipline is the main principle for us to work on. A healthy eating habit, sleeping schedule and regular exercises can keep us healthier. A healthy body image is not the looking, but more about our attitude towards life, about the sense of ability to control our own life. We can gain more confidence from being able to control our life. Another thing we can work on is the freedom of choosing who we want to be. There may be a lots of noises around you. The only voice you should listen to is your own voice. So try to find more time to be with yourself, alone, to be your own friend. I am still trying to find the true self of mine. I believe the source of happiness is you can control of your life, and can be yourself. Good luck for both of us, hope we can succeed.
Mom is willing to grow up with you gradually and slowly. No matter who you will choose to be, you are the one, the only unique one in the world. I love you profoundly.
Mom
