Trevor Noah ON: For People Who FEEL LOST In Life, WATCH THIS To Find Yourself | Jay Shetty
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”I work on healing my childhood in South Africa every day. I love how clearly he can think and explain his thoughts - how articulate he is.
I like to say, “I’m not grateful for my suffering, but I found meaning in it. And that meaning is what I’m grateful for.“
This interview is an excellent conversation between two intellectual people explaining their thoughtfulness and how their experiences shaped them currently. I love how they both explain that they are not grateful for their hardships but for THE RESULT of the hardships.
If we all challenged ourselves to look at our life experiences like this, we would all be better people.
"I never take it for granted that I'm lucky".... love his humility. O.M.G., I'm utterly speechless at this dialogue! It's magical, refreshing, substantial, digestible, relatable, insightful, and enlightening! When Trevor spoke of the clarity in an unsafe/chaotic environment in his childhood - he was self-aware, mindful, and empathic.
“Diamonds are the exception.” This says everything I’ve felt when we push for positivity, no matter what the circumstances. It lets a lot of evil off the hook.
Although we all know how hard it was for him to break into the industry and where he came from, it didn't just happen by luck. Still, I believe he knows some people work incredibly hard all around the world but haven't totally achieved what they would want in life, so once he's made it, he knows it can all go the other way, and thus he is truly grateful for what he has... wise words.
One goes to identify the problem, seek possible remedy or outcome, and fix it as quickly as you can. An adrenaline rush comes with successfully navigating those types of situations, a sense of accomplishment that then rolls into “a sense of safety. “
Safety, security, and love mean different levels of dimension for different people’s needs and perspectives, which is the hierarchy concept. E.g., for some, text me you’re safe; for others, let me alone; taking care of yourself is safe – don’t bother me – walk away.
Growing up religiously, praying got me on my knees. Your relationship with God is your relationship only with God, none of other people’s business. Self-talking, self-conversation, processing my feeling and processing the information running away from my head. I am proud of saying I am an idiot, asking many questions, even naivete, stupid questions. How stupid could you feel asking stupid questions? If I thought I was the smartest person in the room, I did not learn anything. Better to be an idiot asking many enough questions so that you can be the smartest idiot in the room.
This solidifies my learning over the last two years. I always put my situation on others, but during the previous two years, I got a chance to look at myself from behind the mirror, asking myself things like would I hire me? Would I be friends with me? Would I find myself dependable? It's good two see that these two guys who seem like they have everything together also ask themselves the same questions, and you realize that your situation is not as unique as you might think and that we are all human. This was eye-opening.
Trevor's insight, self-awareness, depth of caring, and ability to engage with a wide range of people surfaced in his shows. It's obvious when he interviews people that he has actually read their books and is seeking to learn more, understand, and get clarification at a deeper level.
Such a great conversation! Everything Trevor said, I would hang on to his words. I love this guy, and I read his book. He’s so mindful of everything. I love it so much that what he said two things stood out. Being a fertilizer so that he enriches and improves someone’s life, including his own, and living with the lowest person’s bank balance would teach us compassion, etc. Again fantastic, and inspiring, and I appreciate all his responses. Keep spreading kindness and generosity in the world! Great interview
I like "Your friends in life are your Horcruxes. We break ourselves into parts. Whenever we meet people, we give them a part of ourselves." I never thought about it like that; we give different parts of ourselves to different people, and those people can help us find ourselves again when we lose ourselves in the 'all of us' that we face every day ...It so makes sense. I love it when someone gives words to something I'm trying to figure out.
Imagine the difference in one’s thinking throughout life by being brought up and being told what to think & do /versus/being given questions to find the answers for yourself – the quality of questioning should be the focus of our education – it is your inquiry to shape your belief, which can not be lectured and forced into your head. That’s really impactful if you really think about it.
Your personality and upbringing of childhood are like your seatbelt for your safety.
Being curious and asking questions is my definition of what being smart is… what an amazing conversation thank you for so many great insights!
"home is a feeling; all inquiry is the birth of wisdom," and the loneliness bit.[ how lonely comedians get after the show has ended”.
We hold comedians and other artists in such high regard that we sometimes don’t consider them lonely. It is vital to have close friends who understand who you are and can be yourself with].
** That was great - I learned that.
1. I don't always have to glorify or be grateful for the pain but acknowledge the resilience I got from it.
2. Never assume.
3. Like a seatbelt, it's the most important thing for your safety on the road or air, but when it becomes dysfunctional, you can get stuck. (apply it in your life: your personality and persistence)
I resonated when Trevor spoke about calm in chaos, I learned that this relates to being in survival mode. Therapy, time, self-care, and love will help to reset and improve how we are in particular situations. It also helps the healing process and being able to grow into the best version of ourselves.
Synopsis of the interview:
Today, I am talking to Trevor Noah. Trevor is the most successful Comedian in Africa and is the host of the Emmy and Peabody Award-winning “The Daily Show” on Comedy Central. Under Trevor, “The Daily Show with Trevor Noah” has broken free from the restraints of a 30-minute linear show, producing engaging social content, award-winning digital series, podcasts and more for its global audience. He has written, produced, and starred in 11 comedy specials, including his most recent, “Trevor Noah: Son of Patricia,” which launched in November 2018 on Netflix.
He is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller “Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood” and its young readers adaptation “It’s Trevor Noah: Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood,” which also debuted as a New York Times bestseller. Trevor opens the conversation by sharing what it was like growing up, how he sees the rest of the world, and why it felt like it was okay growing up the way he did. We then exchange thoughts and perspectives on topics such as finding the true meaning of having a ‘home’, the type of friends we often surround ourselves with and why, finding independence in a completely new and foreign place, and being mindful of yourself and in one with your inner thoughts.
What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro
00:02:18 Same story, same book but different meaning
00:05:33 Comparing your hardships to others experiences
00:09:27 “It was not bad because it happened to everyone.”
00:13:27 Are you forced to be grateful for everything?
00:19:13 The true definition of the word home
00:21:39 What is your purpose?
00:25:19 Who are your friends? 00:35:43 Becoming unrelatable to people
00:44:43 How does a monk fire someone? 00:46:48 What is your idea of safety?
00:52:30 When’s the best time to walk away?
00:56:37 Having conversations with yourself
01:03:37 When you leave home 01:09:25 The burden our parents unconsciously give us
01:17:54 The Many Sides to Us
01:24:03 Trevor on Final Five
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWI61kpFEAA (Trevor’s accent)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tcqiJAqjoxE (the best Comedian)
summary: Trevor Noah: Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood,” which also debuted as a New York Times bestseller
"Trevor Noah: Born a Crime: Stories from a South African Childhood" is a memoir by comedian and television host Trevor Noah. The book details his experiences growing up in South Africa during the apartheid era, where his mixed-race heritage made him a crime in the eyes of the government.
Noah writes about his upbringing with his mother, Patricia, who was fiercely independent and worked hard to provide for her family. He also writes about his experiences with his abusive stepfather and the challenges he faced as a young boy trying to fit in with different cultural groups.
Throughout the book, Noah offers insight into how apartheid affected people's daily lives in South Africa. He also reflects on his identity and the complexities of growing up in a country deeply divided by race.
"Born a Crime" received critical acclaim for its humor, honesty, and thought-provoking insights. It debuted as a New York Times bestseller and has since been adapted into a one-man show and a feature film. The book is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity.
Trevor Noah's parents?
Trevor Noah's mother is Patricia Nombuyiselo Noah. She is a Xhosa woman who grew up in the black township of Soweto during apartheid. Patricia worked as a secretary and a computer programmer to provide for Trevor and his younger brother, David. She is also a devout Christian and played a significant role in shaping Trevor's values and worldview.
Trevor's father is Robert Noah. He is a white Swiss-German who moved to South Africa in the 1970s. Robert and Patricia had a brief relationship during a time when interracial relationships were illegal in South Africa. Because of this, Trevor was "born a crime," as his mixed-race heritage made him a target of the authorities. Robert was largely absent from Trevor's life, and they did not have a close relationship.
