Nowadays most people miss friendship. We could buy house, car, nice clothes, but we could not buy real friendship. How could we find a real friendship? Some people believe it is by luck. Some people believe it is an intentional effort to find one. I used to believe friends are meant to be. No maintenance is required. However, after I heard a story from girl friend A, my opinion changed. I finally realized friendship need maintenance, juts let plans need watering.
Story is simple, A Knew B few years ago and had good relationship to each other. B will drop to A's house without early notice and A will talked to B whenever B needed. B invites A to her house for party several times, but A is too busy to invite back. A thought she could do it later. One day B had a big party and A agreed to go weeks ago, but the way of party, A did not feel well so told B not to go. B was not happy, but A did not realize it at that time. A thought they are very close and there are lot of other people in the party so it is not a big deal, but it turned out A's decision make her lose the friendship. B start to become very indifferent to A and no matter how much A tried, their relationship could not recover. A told me she is update and feel sorry to lose this friendship, and she did not realize how big impact one minor thing could have. After I heard this story I told A, first of all things have happened, no need to cry over spilled milk, second she need to learn the lesson that nothing in this world is maintenance free. Everything needs time and effort. A agreed with me and complained it is so hard to do everything: working, taking care parents taking care of child, taking care of husband, not need to take care of friends... I told A to ask herself what she wants from her life most. She could not do everything well, she need to concentrate on one or two things. Friendship should make her happy not pressured. If she does not have time to nutrient friendship now, then do it later. However, just remember not expect more from others than she could put in.
This is my favorite quote: “Friendship is when people know about you, but like you anyway”. I wish I could find friendship like this in my life one day.
