While I talked with my friend Stillwater over the phone, she told me this saying: “nothing is permanent but change”. Both of us feel it so true. Looking back to our lives, it is not difficult to find changes we have experienced, physically and psychologically.
Coincidently, I happened to read something very interesting about life span development after our talk. It was like I was watching my son to grow again, from an embryo to an infant; from a baby to a toddler and a little boy; from only attaching to family members to independently and proactively making friends in school; from baby-talk to logical argument. Sometimes, I really wish I could stuff his little brain with all sorts of knowledge and skills. I also felt like I was envisioning his adolescence and adulthood, tall and handsome, determined and cooperative.
Meanwhile, I was looking back on my own life up to date. Yes, I’ve changed a lot too, and will change more in the future. Going to college, being a teacher, married, going abroad, making new friends, working for career, having my son….what an achievement. Although not perfect, I did accomplish all with my joy and sorrow, laugh and tears; a valuable life experience.
Upon reading the later stages of life span, I was like watching myself getting old, as what I see from my parents, with gray hair, wrinkles all over my face, and yet optimistic and discerning, which is what I expect after being trained in the college of society for a whole life.
Undoubtedly, we are not able to grow without adapting to changes. We change because we learn and experience. The good thing is we, as directed by our conscience, will change better. Change is like viruses, when it first hits you, you might be defeated or sick. However, your body also produces antibodies to against later attacks. While your body is getting stronger, so is your mind, no change would defeat you anymore. You would sincerely welcome any change, since it means a new beginning and hope.
(whim on weekend.)