Although you decide how you live and what to live for, others can usually see better what kind of person you are. So their judgment is true to a large degree. Candidly interact with other people. They are as intelligent as you are. Don't live in your own world. Otherwise how you do is biased for yourself. Let others see you and understand you. Know their needs and understand them. This is the reflections when shredding communications from the past for cleaning up to rent.