Holding up a mirror is not always pretty. It can be quite confronting to realise the only person holding ourselves back going after what we want is ourselves. Particularly when we want to writhe in the frustration of our own lives. Our brains love drama. It can be easier to stay there in the comfort of what we think is true vs considering other options that are harder to grapple with because they require self growth.
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Lindsay Parker thank you for your honesty and vulnerability here. I think many of us do find it a challenge. I’m definitely not immune to it either. I appreciate your wise and thoughtful words and perspective as always!
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There will be people who won’t like this post because I’m calling out behaviour they exhibit. I still find myself working with behaviour that does not serve me or others. No one is perfect but we all have the opportunity to reflect, become more conscious and do better. Lead with integrity and conscious awareness.
If you are perpetually unhappy, frustrated or externalising, ask yourself… ‘what more am I capable of?’
“You can create your own destiny.”
, indeed.
We have to know our mind and it’s role in our lives.
The mind is actually limited to knowing what the senses see, smell, hear, touch, taste.
The message is that your mind represents your automatic, default setting, your mind does whatever it is biologically wired to do, and part of this wiring requires to be hopelessly and eternally selfish and self-centered.
It is not just the fact that our minds are conditioned at birth that proves problematic; it is the utterly unspiritual quality of that conditioning.
Hope this help, especially when, and too often the mind takes over us.
, indeed.
We have to know our mind and it’s role in our lives.
The mind is actually limited to knowing what the senses see, smell, hear, touch, taste.
The message is that your mind represents your automatic, default setting, your mind does whatever it is biologically wired to do, and part of this wiring requires to be hopelessly and eternally selfish and self-centered.
It is not just the fact that our minds are conditioned at birth that proves problematic; it is the utterly unspiritual quality of that conditioning.
Hope this help, especially when, and too often the mind takes over us.
1 Reply1 Comment on Peter Lok’s comment
Yes thank you. This is so true. Great explanation
You can create your own destiny
Once you put everything in the right perspective, even bad times can be an opportunity to refresh your appetite, your desire.
Once you put everything in the right perspective, even bad times can be an opportunity to refresh your appetite, your desire.
1 Reply1 Comment on Karrtik karrtik’s comment
Great words to start the morning! I struggle with the part: "...holding challenging conversations". But, I may now know why. Thank-you, Sarah.
1 Reply1 Comment on Matthew Van, MBA’s comment
Absolutely Sarah McGregor be the change you want to see and FEEL. Show up with integrity, lead with empathy.
1 Reply1 Comment on Alexander N. Andrews’ comment
Yes I love that… lead with empathy. Thank you
Black beauty
Anything else is subject to external forces.
So often I hear people talk about other people.
Not always productively.
??Instead of questioning what they may or may not think about you..
??Instead of worrying about their judgement…
??Instead of talking negatively about what they have or have not done…
??Instead of blaming and shaming…
Focus on being productive and constructive in your collaborative working…
Lead yourself how you would want to be led by others and
Show up with integrity.
If someone wants to bag you, diminish you or complain about you..
Without questioning their own role in the mess, and rationale for feeling they have to, it tells you a lot about their character…
It tells you a lot about ego and the mindtraps that trip them up in life.
It can also reflect if they have a growth or fixed mindset.
You can tell a lot about someone’s development needs as a leader from they way they talk, behave, what they say and don’t say.
And…
It also tells you how conscious they are as humans.
At the end of the day, you can’t control others!
You can influence and show up with purpose.
You can be kind and thoughtful even holding challenging conversations…
Mindful of other’s emotions and life challenges.
Mindful that you only see a small part of a giant puzzle
So get curious
You can create your own destiny.
Your energy is better served there.
And you will achieve things far faster focusing on whatever is productive and constructive.
It’s the attitude of truly adaptive, conscious and high performance leaders.
So…
If you are spending your time in the unproductive zone ask yourself…
Why?
What need is it serving in you?
And what steps do you have to take to shift it?
Only you can be the Change that you want to create.
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