最近看到一篇报道, 在2010年,一所很有名的 Collge of William and Mary 大学,有三个学生自杀 (学生总人数八千多)。学生自杀,可能有情感关系,经济问题,family issues, public humiliation, 或学业问题而引起。 前几年听到 MIT 有一学生自杀的。 上个月听到Brandeis 大学有一female学生自杀 (发生在情人节前一晚上)。听Cornell U 一个毕业生讲 那里有一座 “suicide bridge", 发生过好多起学生自杀事件,听起来很可怕。 进了好学校,等于进了“高压锅”,学业重压力大。如何培养孩子的社交能力和“抗压”能力,这也需有目的的关注。
Parents, relatives, teachers, and resident assistants should pay close attention to student’s emotional changes and talk to them often. In all US universities, there are about 1100 student suicide per year, and suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students.
We as Chinese parents and first generation of immigrants always push our son’s or daughter’s academic performances to extreme and put grades as our top priority and as our bragging rights if our kids get into top universities. In addition, we Chinese parents ignore our kids’ interest in art, music, or teaching, and select just a few majors with highly paid professional future such as law, medicine, finance/business (especially merge and acquisition).
To make sure your kids have a good emotional support, there are a few suggestions from experts: spot severe depression early, do not have over-load in classes, seek professional help early. Many colleges have psychological consoling; have a group of kid friends who can provide emotional support for each other. Give permission to have girl friend or boy friend in high school to learn and gain dating experience, but prohibits promiscus sexual relationship in high school. If Chinese kids did not have dating experience in high school, they might become emotionally wrecked and disastrous when they meet and break up with girls/boys in college (similar to early vaccination in grade school, middle school and high school ages).
If you want to learn more about suicide rate, visit the web site:
http://www.suicide.org/suicide-statistics.html
U.S. Suicide Statistics (2005)
Actual Suicides
1.3% of all deaths are from suicide.
On average, one suicide occurs every 16 minutes.
Suicide is the eleventh leading cause of death for all Americans.
Suicide is the third leading cause of death for young people aged 15-24 year olds.
(1st = accidents, 2nd = homicide)
Suicide is the second leading cause of death for 25-34 year olds.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death among college students.
More males die from suicide than females.
(4 male deaths by suicide for each female death by suicide.)
More people die from suicide than from homicide.
(Suicide ranks as the 11th leading cause of death; Homicide ranks 13th.)
There were over 800,000 suicide attempts in 2005
Rank | State | Number | Rate |
1 | Alaska | 155 | 23.6 |
2 | Montana | 175 | 18.9 |
2 | Nevada | 440 | 18.9 |
4 | New Mexico | 356 | 18.7 |
5 | Wyoming | 88 | 17.4 |
6 | Colorado | 797 | 17.3 |
7 | Idaho | 236 | 16.9 |
8 | West Virginia | 285 | 15.7 |
9 | Utah | 377 | 15.6 |
10 | Oregon | 555 | 15.5 |
11 | Arizona | 880 | 15.3 |
12 | Vermont | 93 | 15.0 |
13 | South Dakota | 112 | 14.5 |
14 | Oklahoma | 506 | 14.4 |
15 | Florida | 2,389 | 13.7 |
16 | Kansas | 370 | 13.5 |
16 | Kentucky | 560 | 13.5 |
18 | Tennessee | 792 | 13.4 |
18 | Washington | 830 | 13.4 |
20 | Arkansas | 361 | 13.1 |
21 | Maine | 171 | 13.0 |
22 | Missouri | 715 | 12.4 |
23 | Mississippi | 350 | 12.1 |
24 | North Carolina | 1,027 | 12.0 |
24 | Wisconsin | 662 | 12.0 |
24 | Alabama | 541 | 12.0 |
27 | Louisiana | 537 | 11.9 |
28 | Iowa | 343 | 11.6 |
29 | Ohio | 1,319 | 11.5 |
29 | South Carolina | 482 | 11.5 |
29 | North Dakota | 73 | 11.5 |
32 | Pennsylvania | 1,410 | 11.4 |
33 | Indiana | 704 | 11.3 |
34 | Delaware | 93 | 11.2 |
35 | Virginia | 828 | 11.1 |
-- | Total | 32,439 | 11.1 |
36 | Georgia | 973 | 10.9 |
36 | Michigan | 1,098 | 10.9 |
38 | Minnesota | 524 | 10.3 |
39 | New Hampshire | 133 | 10.2 |
39 | Texas | 2,300 | 10.2 |
41 | Nebraska | 166 | 9.5 |
42 | California | 3,368 | 9.4 |
43 | Hawaii | 116 | 9.2 |
44 | Maryland | 500 | 9.0 |
45 | Connecticut | 294 | 8.4 |
46 | Illinois | 1,028 | 8.1 |
47 | Rhode Island | 85 | 7.9 |
48 | New Jersey | 597 | 6.9 |
49 | Massachusetts | 425 | 6.6 |
50 | New York | 1,187 | 6.2 |
51 | District of Columbia | 33 | 6.0 |